Re-gifting handmade items?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

rachel85:  I think since you are keeping the items “in the family”, it’s not such a big deal. If you were giving them to a friend or stranger (or charity), it would be a different issue.

I do think that IF for any reason you do end up with a baby down the line, you should borrow them back from SIL long enough to take a photo to send to the well-intentioned relative and move on with your lives.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

rachel85:  You can (and probably should) disabuse the great aunt of her mistaken impression that you’re pregnant right now without having to get into the larger question of your life choices. If you just quietly accept the gift/say something (truthful) along the lines of “how lovely and special,” etc., it will probably be taken as tacit confirmation that you are pregnant, leading to more family gossip and possibly more baby-related gifts from other extended family.

I would probably write Great Aunt a thank-you note along the lines of, “How lovely and sweet, it’s so beautiful, but I’m afraid someone must have given you incorrect information – we are not expecting. However, SIL and her husband are (is this the same side of the family? Does Great Aunt know these people?) and we would love for them to be able to use it. We hope that we have your blessing to pass it along to them.”

If Great Aunt is not from the same side as SIL and won’t see them being used by her, then you could substitute something like “Even though we aren’t in need of them now, we will put them aside until they are needed.” You don’t need to tell her that means “until I can give them to someone who needs them.”

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

rachel85:  I think if your SIL is aware they were made by this elderly relative I think she’ll appreciate having them and the relative would probably appreciate they’re being put to use!

As long as you’re not trying to make her think you bought them or that you made them or something.

Your MIL is a huge bitch by the way. Just had to get that out.

On a positive note about that, it’s sweet that this older relative wants to support your “surprise-pregnancy-therefore-runaway-wedding” instead of shunning you or something.

MIL obviously can’t tell people you ran off to get married because she’s a twat.

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