- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
We are having an intimate wedding and expecting, at most, 30 people from what we’re hearing from guests who already know they can’t come (wedding is in Iowa, everyone has to travel)…
So, as I’ve posted here before we are having our reception in a local nice restaurant’s private party room. There’s no separate charge for the room and it is going to be more like a big “dinner out” than a reception, aside from the fact that there’ll be a wedding cake.
Anyway, the place is nice and it’s a good thing because there really were not many options at ALL in the small town we are marrying in, and this place is actually in the heart of downtown, 3 blocks from the church where we are marrying. If the weather is nice we can all just stroll over!
So that’s why we chose it, but it is pricey. I am uber thrifty, some might call me cheap. 😉 But really, I don’t ever eat anywhere where I pay more than $15 for a meal and normally I am an $8 plate kind of girl (and consider that to be high!)… but I didn’t want something cheesy and I wanted GOOD food and a nice atmosphere. Everything else in town had a distinct Howard Johnson /late 80’s triple wide kind of vibe. Ick. This place’s average menu item runs around $25 a plate. I don’t think I’ve eaten food that expensive since I had a roommate with a trust fund a love for eating out back when I was 18.
Least expensive item is a personal gourmet pizza for $13. I am supposed to pick 3 or 4 menu items and they will only offer those but I want people to have a nice variety so eitehr way it will end up ranging in price from $20 to $25 per person. Not including soda or tea.
I want our guests to feel “treated” and to have a good time of course,but when I add alcohol onto that food figure, even with limits in place such as drink tickets, it adds another $300 to the total EASY because the restaruant’s prices are so high. Even if we bring in our own wine and pay their per-bottle corking fee! I just keep thinking I could do so much better buying alcohol elsewhere and serving it later on.
Even if someone were to have 2 glasses of house wine each it would add $12 per drinker. I don’t even know the cost of their mixed drinks and beer (not on menu online, haven’t asked directly). But you get the picture. Alcoholic drinks equal about half the cost of the food per person and to me that’s nuts!
So I am thinking here lately about maybe bringing in a single large bottle of champagne for a toast and paying their corking fee, and then we invite everyone back to the guest house we are renting, if they want to drink they can drink there, I can buy alcohol and leave it at the house.
The thing is, I didnt think of this until after the invites were done and sealed. So there’s no mention of it on the invitations. There is no explicit mention of alcohol either way, just a “Please join us for dinner” blah blah blah.
What do y’all think? We can just mention it the day of, right? Something like “we’re also meeting for drinks after dinner back at the guest house, join us!”
If I just tell the restaurant ahead of time I don’t want to pay for any alcohol it should be fine, yes?