Reached goal weight, but not goal body :(

posted 3 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@melizabe:  Weight is just a number, and it took me a LONG time to accept that.  I hit my lowest weight throughout my journey this past winter, when my fave workout (outdoor running) became damn near impossible to sustain due to weather.  So, I tried taking that onto the treadmill, and within weeks became bored, so I turned to circuit training/weights, etc.  I GAINED 6 lbs, but my body changed for the better, because I am more leaner and toned than when I was at my lowest weight.


My point is that the # I became obsessed with on the scale, of which I had not even achieved at the point, would make me ‘skinny’, but not necessarily in love with the shape of my body.  Hindsight is 20/20.  Although I turned to a new workout due other circumstances, I now see that although I weigh more, my body looks ‘better’!!


Once the weather breaks, I will hit the pavement, but will NOT give up circuit training, and therefore, may never hit my target weight.  Maybe try that if you have not, and your ‘problem areas’ may make you feel great, although the number may go up too 🙂



Post # 4
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Do yoga, weights, and resistance training – you’ll definitely start to notice a huge difference!

Post # 5
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This scares me too.  DD is 10 months old and while I’m only about 10lbs away from where I was, nothing is in the same place.  My hips are wider, I have less muscle tone, and my tummy skin is definitely stretched out.

And now I’m pregnant again.


I would definitely suggest lifting weights and doing interval training to change things up a bit.  Maybe even hire a personal trainer, even for a few sessions, just to get you on the right track.

Also, be kind to yourself.  You may or may not have the body you once had, but that body had not grown and birthed an entire human being.  This one has, and that demands a whole lot of respect and admiration.  Take care of your body, make it a healthy temple, but don’t get too caught up in it being what it was, because what it was is less than what it is, and what it has done for you is nothing short of a miracle.

Post # 6
397 posts
Helper bee

@melizabe:  Weight/strength training makes all the difference. That is what transforms your body, not weightloss alone. Weight loss alone makes many people “skinny fat”, whereas weight training can make you several inches smaller and nice and taut… Again, at entirely the same weight.

Post # 7
1208 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@melizabe:  I am 2.5 months PP and 2 pounds below my pre-prego weight but still nothing fits.  This happened with my first as well.  You need to lose fat and gain muscle.  I suggest weight lifting and some cardio.  P90X literally gave me a Jillian Michaels body after 6 months (not exaggerating).  I can’t wait to start up again – my goal is to start March 1st.  It is also my goal to get my son in his crib for naps instead of my arms so I can actually work out!!  Congrats on yoyr weight liss – now work on toning up!  You can do it!

Post # 8
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@melizabe:  congratulations on your massive achievement! But please don’t be hung up on what your body looks like, if you’re panning to conceive your body will change dramatically again, and if you were to have a flat tummy pre-pregancy that won’t ever mean you’ll get one back post pregnancy. The bottom line is that your in great shape to concieve and you’re much healtier now that you were. I know it doesn’t change how you feel about your body, but maybe try getting different shaped trousers that flatter your new shape?


Post # 9
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

First off want to congratulate you for your hard work and weight loss!

I agree with PP who said to add weights (resistance) to your workouts.

When you’re pregnant you gain weight (but do not gain muscle), but when you lose weight you will lose some muscle along with the fat that comes off (no matter how much you try to avoid it, you’ll always lose a little muscle too).  So while you might be back to the same number weight, your body composition might be different, less muscle and more fat which is why things fit differently.

I’ve read crunches aren’t the best post-baby workout, so planks are your friend there, but combined that with weight training you’ll see a huge change in your body.

Post # 10
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@OUgal0004:  +1!

OP, losing the weight is amazing- you should feel so proud!  But a huge part of it is  building muscle.  Muscle weighs more than fat, so even if that number on the scale starts to go up again, it doesn’t mean you’re losing.  Start doing some strength training and heavy lifting.  Pilates would be great too.  Keep your diet good, and you will see results!  


Post # 12
1248 posts
Bumble bee

@Soon2bmarried123:  holy crap these are inspiring!! I’ve been working with a personal trainer for 2.5 months now. The scale has hardly moved, which I’m not used to after doing a VLCD to lose a lot of weight. I haven’t seen much difference yet- but damn, seeing this reassures me that as long as I keep up with what I’m doing, and eating right, I will see a difference whether the scale moves or not! Thank you SO much for posting these!!

Post # 13
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@melizabe:  don’t focus on your weight, and especially not your BMI.

I lost some weight, then gained it all back and then some last year and I initially felt terrible about the number on the scale. But then I realized I’ve never looked so good! I continued to do crossfit and weight train because they made me feel good. When I finally made an appt to have my body fat % measured, it was waaaaay lower than it had been, even at my lowest weight.

Start an exercise regime (even a video like Jillian Michaels or my fave, Insanity) while continuing to eat healthy meals/portions. You may see the number on the scale go up a little, but hopefully you’ll also see good improvement in your overall shape.

Post # 14
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I”ve been having a hard time with this too.  The scale is going up, but the inches are coming down.  It’s all about strength training for me – build up that muscle tone 🙂

You’ll get there!

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