Reached the almost breaking point

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

ruphiolis:  Men dont always feel the way we do about wedding planning. They are typically more excited about the actual marriage itself and becoming husband and wife. And of course the wedding night!

Post # 3
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would try to separate feelings about the wedding from feelings about the marriage. It’s very common to get less excited about the actual wedding as the stress of planning sets in. I had times when I was definnitely less excited about the wedding. But I came around (I think most people do) and had a fantastic time at my wedding! But that really isn’t the same as being excited about the marriage – which is way more important.

Post # 6
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

ruphiolis:  I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this. If he told you that he’s not excited for your marriage anymore, was he able to offer reasons or thoughts about why? Would he be willing to go to counseling to work on things? Is he motivated to work to improve things? When is your wedding currently schedule to be?

Post # 8
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222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm

ruphiolis:  How long are you going to continue to be long distance? That can definitely put strain on a relationship, especially if you’re in the middle of planning a wedding. It sounds like you’ve got quite a bit of time, though, so you might consider putting the active wedding planning on hold for now so that you can really focus on working through your communication issues and make sure that he is able to find his way back to feeling confident about your future marriage.

Have you expressed to him how important his phone calls are to you? I mean, expressed it when you’re both in a calm and rational mind frame (i.e. not in the middle of a fight)? 

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