- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My boyfriend and I see eye to eye on most things, but there are two things we definitely had to come to an agreement on. The first was a timeline for marriage (settled before I looked at wedding sites) and the other is engagement rings. (We live together, mostly because I have a seizure disorder and sporadic memory loss and can’t really live alone. Needed to clarify.)
He said he thought it necessary to buy a big, fancy ring, because it shows he is financially capable of taking care of me. I like narrow bands and small stones, which one can get at most department stores for under $70. He basically said I was wrong, and brides-to-be should get costly rings,
So I tried to look up rings I liked and filled his desire to get a costly ring. The most expensive one I could find was about $130. I mentioned this to my best female friend, and she immediately found a site with rings I liked, which focused my search. This got me thinking, so I wrote an e-mail to my boyfriend.
I went on about the engagement ring shopping process, the history of the engagement ring, and what engagement rings mean to me. I also included that what he does, like carrying me to his car at 2AM and waiting with me in the ER, cooking and doing dishes when I’m sick, putting my hair up when I’m not able to, and hugging me everyday, is the type of investment and security I want. He wrote back saying he’d been thinking about how to go engagement ring shopping without me knowing what ring he picked, and asked me to send links to rings I like.
He came home from work beaming. He kissed me about three times as much as usual. He said I made the best spaghetti he’s ever encountered. He turned off his computer half an hour earlier than usual and just stared at me with the stupidest grin (made amusing by the fact that his dark, curly hair was sticking out in every direction.)
Anyone else’s boyfriend/fiance have a weird reaction to something like this?