Post # 76
FI and I have a girl name and a boy name but we haven’t told anyone. Firstly because I’m not pregnant so it would be weird to discuss babies, and secondly because we don’t want to cop what you’ve experienced! Our names are not completely out there, but not common either and both are taken from Stephen King books (he’s mine and FI’s favourite author).
We both have names which were in the top five most common children’s names in the 1980s, and while I would never name my kid Khafrinnn or some weird name they’d be spelling and clarifying forever, it was annoying being Kate Last Initial in every school and most workplaces I’ve ever been in, and on one occasion, Tall Kate because there was another Kate with my last initial.
Post # 77
There have been a lot of good points here : in summary, it’s your call, and your friends probably meant well even if they weren’t tactful.
Something to consider, even though it’s wrong that certain names get better responses on resumes, it doesn’t make it not true. While it’s a social problem we will hopefully solve with time, it’s unlikely to be solved in the next twenty years when your LO will be looking for work. Even the most impressive resumes are considered through the biases of the interviewer. Of course this is something your child can manage themself as well – I tend to use my gender ambiguous NN for technical resumes, but it’s not an unimportant point to consider.
That said, I’m sorry you’re getting pushback when you were looking for support – I hope your friends come around and in the end, it’s not like they get any say or will rename your LO if you stick to your guns and they still don’t like it. I don’t have any similar stories to share, but wish you all the best with resolving your fight