Post # 1
It seems like I get the strangest looks and comments regarding EVERY detail of my wedding that I mention to people. I don’t just offer up information either, people practically drag it out of me—and I feel like I would sound weird and secretive if I say I don’t want to tell them…or that I want it to be a surprise. I don’t even think anything I’m doing is so weird or non-traditional!
For instance, today I emailed my grandmother a picture of the cake topper I ordered. It is two “love birds” made from birch wood, one wearing a veil and one wearing a top hat. I said in the email that I really liked the rustic look of them. My gma called me laughing so hard that she couldn’t even speak! She said “RUSTIC is right!!” (definitely wasn’t saying it in a good way).
I’ve gotten strange and negative reactions about:
- using a different song to walk down the aisle to (not “Here Comes the Bride”)
- having a candy buffet (apparently no one has EVER heard of one—one person was soo confused and said “Err…you must really like candy, huh?”)
- making my own crepe paper flowers
- using mason jars as décor (I get looks of pity, as though they think I have to use mason jars because I can’t afford anything else)
…and so many other things.
I just try to remember EVERYONE is not on Wedding Bee or wedding blogs every day like I am, and it doesn’t matter what they think anyway. But it is really getting kind of discouraging!
Is anyone else dealing with comments or reactions like these?
Post # 3
It’s funny people have these reactions, because people on here sometimes will comment about stuff being overdone, and yet no one I know has EVER heard of it or seen it done! I think you just have to let the negative comments roll of your back, they’ll be wowed when they see how it all pulls together on the wedding day!
Post # 4
Hahaha my mom had never heard of a wedding website. She thought it was in place of an invitation 🙂
Post # 4
Often when we talk to our parents or grandparents about our weddings, the current ideas are totally new to them.
They may not have been to a wedding for a long time and they definitely don’t hang out on wedding forums or message boards.
You will have your day when they GUSH about how beautiful your wedding was.
Post # 5
@Wonderstruck: I know! A lot of things that I’m doing are pretty overdone in the “wedding world,” but then I remember that no one at my wedding will have seen it before, probably.
Sometimes I want to scream, “IT’S NOT WEIRD! EVERYONE DOES THIS! THE INTERNET TOLD ME SO!”
Post # 6
@MademoiselleL: Haha my family had never heard of one either! That was one idea they thought was kind of neat though…but didn’t really seem to see the point of it.
@julies1949: You’re exactly right! That’s what I try to keep in mind.
Post # 7
Mother-In-Law said everyone on her side of the family was shocked by my non matching Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. My girls all wore the same length, color, fabric and designer but apparently it’s just unheard of the styles were different. Also everyone on their side of the family made comments about my fuchsia/tangerine color scheme like it was the weirdest thing they’d ever seen. As you might guess they’re very traditional. I’m not. I didn’t wear a poofy gown, use any cake topper, walked down to a modern song with lyrics, put my flower girls in color instead of the “mini bride” look. All these things are apparently odd. I think it’s a generation thing honestly.
Post # 8
@7-9-11bride: I, too, think it is a generational thing. Nothing about your wedding sounds odd at all to me!
ETA: I just looked at some of your photos, you were a beautiful bride! And your wedding was gorgeous as well!
Post # 9
Aww thank you! I’m still waiting on my pro pics, so excited to see them 🙂
Post # 10
Oh yeah. I am going for a steampunk masquerade and that confuses the hell out of people. I’m also walking down the aisle to the Terminator theme which makes people get this disgusted look on their face. Here Come the Bride makes me cringe so I wont use it. I also have a very over the top style and my dress, veil choices, jewelry choice and all that look like they make people want to puke. My mom and step sisters went as far as to buy me a dress behind my back because they hated mine so much.
Everyone’s negetivity just made me love my wedding more in the end. Maybe its me being rebellious. Don’t let people get you down because in the end, when they see it, they will probably realize how dumb they were being and love your unique wedding anyway.
Post # 11
I’ve been getting weird comments too. When we first told FI’s family about our venue (a sugar shack), they were like “err… okay….” (since then they’ve warmed up to the idea, but at first they were picturing something much more formal). I also continueally get comments about my paper flowers. My cousin was like “You’re not having REAL FLOWERS!?????!” as if this was the most bizzare and outrageous thing she ever heard. my Future Sister-In-Law said the other day “You’re not going to let my brother wear his fedora on your wedding day, right?” and when I replied saying I love his fedora and I wouldn’t want to see him without it, she winced. lol.
Take it with stride. Who cares really? *We* love our wedding, and that is what matters. 🙂
Post # 11
Save the dates…no one in our family does them. I did because our wedding is Out of Town for 90% of our guests, but many of htem thought that it was the invitation.
DIY everything….”Why would you do that yourself when you can buy it/hire someone?” (obviously from people who’ve never planned a wedding and/or have no budget concerns.
Ceremony Music….playing our favorite songs via iPod. I’m sure we’ll get some reaction to that.
Not having a wedding cake….my mom freaked out, until I told her we’re not having a DISPLAY cake but we’re still serving sheet cake.
Wedding Website…getting comments about how much info is on there (like it’s a bad thing?). I have our own little bios, how we met, our engagement video, the RSVP page, a page to request a song for the DJ to play, and a page with little bios about how we know everyone in our wedding party. I think it’s fun info for those who want to read it!
Post # 12
Oh don’t pay their comments any mind. Your day will be beautiful with all of your personal touches. They are poo-pooing your ideas now but I bet your wedding gets lots of praise once they see everything come together!
Post # 13
I just blogged about this today…really about wedding invitations. Here is every wedding invitations I’ve received in recent years:
Two of them are on the same paper…same border, everything. I USED to judge an invitation by running my finger over it to see if it was engraved or used thermography. I KNOW that some of my friends will think my awesome invite is cheap or birthday party like, even though among bloggers and those who read blogs, it’s well received:
Post # 14
My mom was so confused that we were considering cupcakes instead of cake. We also plan to buy our linens since its SO much cheaper than renting. My Future Mother-In-Law was horrified and confused about this idea.
I dont plan on doing a flower/garter toss and Im pretty sure my moms heart broke a little.