(Closed) Reading Help!

posted 5 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are you using the book “Together for Life”?

Post # 4
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

the responsorial psalm we chose was not in the together for life book. our ceremony musician wanted to give us a few more options to choose from, so she played a few for us when we met with her and we chose one of those. i believe ours was “may the lord bless us all the days of our lives.” 

if you don’t have the together for life book, i’d recommend checking it out. and if you don’t care for any of those maybe your musician or priest can recommend something ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We didn’t choose what was in the “Together for Life” book either. I found those very boring. Look in your hymnal at the responsorial psalms and pick the ones you like. OR you can read the psalms themselves and see which words go with you and your fiance ๐Ÿ™‚ When you pick which psalm you like, look for the psalm number online and see which Responsorials colaborate with it ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck!

Post # 6
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Open up Song of Solomon in your bible and arrange your psalm from there.  Song of Solomon is a very marriage centered book. 

Christopher West’s book “Heaven’s Song: Sexual Love As It Was Meant to Be” offers some reflections on this book based on the writings of Justice of the Peace II.

Here’s some Protestant humorous observations about Song of Solomon from “Laugh your Way to a Better Marriage.”  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kuGKDLleNiY


Post # 7
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess Together for Life is a standard book Catholic churches give to couples? My Fiance and I are having trouble picking out readings from that book also. I will have to ask the church if we can use other readings possibly. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Here are a few other resources:


Watershed has a pdf of their book of plsams.  You have to get down to page 217 to get to ones for Nuptial Masses. 


Traditionally, the readings used for Nuptial Masses have been:  Ephesians 5: 22-23.  Unforunately, by omitting verse 21 and stopping at 23, the reading sounds misogynistic.  When the Church now reads Ephesians passage in the Sunday Liturgy, verse 21 is included.  Thus is begin:  “Be subordinate to one another out of reverence to Christ.”  If the whole passage is read to verse 33, it becomes clear that Paul is talking about mutual types of submission while affirming the complimentarity of the sexes.  (See New Feminism: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_feminism

Since this reading deals with how marriage is a sign of Christ’s love for humanity, this passage opens priests up to some really spectacular homilies that you probably would not suspect.  A lot of people read this passage, get offended and move toward readings that actually give a lot less for the priest to work with.  I’d encourage you to use that reading. 

Here is one of Justice of the Peace II’s commentary’s on the passage:  http://www.catholicculture.org/culture/library/view.cfm?recnum=5531

The other traditional reading is Matt 19: 3-6.  This is the passage that Christ specifically addresses the institution of marriage.  Its also the passage people don’t like because Christ condemns divorce and remarriage.

There is no traditional reading for the first old testament reading because the Latin Mass only had one reading from the epistle and a gospel (oh and then at the end of Mass the beginning of John’s gospel about the Word being made flesh was said at the end of EVERY mass).

But considering Matt’s reference to the Genesis passage, I would then recommend Gen 2:18-24

And again, Song of Solomon has appropriate texts about sexual love (and it is also traditionally understood to be speaking also of Christ as Bridegroom with His Bride the Church).

Much of the Theology of the Body is commentary and exegesis on these texts.  This gives a lot of resources for the priest to build up a homily that is illuminating, surprising and inspiring.  Plus it gives the opportunity for the priest to adequately explain these parts of the bible and Church teaching rather than running away and deciding to ignore them because they don’t immediately “feel good.”

This song you won’t find in a hymnal.  It was my household’s song when I was a student at Franciscan University.  It was written by one of our sisters who graduated before I got there.  Its based on Song of Solomon.  A lot of my household sisters use it in their wedding for communion.  I didn’t use it because it wouldn’t have been appropriate for a Latin Mass http://yourlisten.com/channel/content/16899740/My_Beloved,_Love_of_the_Lamb.

Post # 9
990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are using Psalm 34. Ask your priest what he would suggest

Post # 10
7234 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@megan52088:  If your priest is cool with Song of Solomon (which is techinically not a psalm) see if the choir can sing “Set me as a seal”. It’s done as a male/female duet and is BEAUTIFUL. That was our go-to wedding psalm when I was in Lifeteen choir.

Post # 11
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

We attend a Domincan missionary church so we chose the Dominican Magnificat as our responsorial. It isn’t a psalm at all but rather sung by the cantor with the congregation singing the chorus. It’s beautiful and speaks to our hearts and what we hope to accomplish booth as a couple and together. Not very traditional but beautiful none the less. 



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