Reading too much into it???

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Newbee

@aprilnewbee:  I totally hear you!!!  I have myself hyped up that it could happen over this holiday season as well and I am trying so hard to manage my expectations because I don’t want him to see how disappointed I am that he didn’t propose (if he doesn’t).  Like you, we have a big trip planned that in my head would be PERFECT for a proposal. 

I am just trying to keep busy to make it until the trip without exploding of anticipation and then if it happens it will be AMAZING and if it doesn’t we just have to remind ourselves that this is out of our hands and they will do it when they are good and ready… which is hopefully soon! lol

Have any bees out there actually felt the disapointment of thinking for sure it was going to happen and then it didn’t??? 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@aprilnewbee:  It sounds like it could happen soon! And maybe I’M reading too much into it, but I bet he was at the jewelry store for your ring and that’s what made him think to tell you he was getting his watch fixed 😉

BTW do you happen to be Irish or Scottish? I sense it in your writing (or are you FROM Iceland?)

My boss is Scottish and these things:

 “I went to the  pub for a pint”

“He takes the mickey out of me too I might add!”

I totally read it in his voice lol

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Proposal in Iceland *swoon*

I was there for a month for work and it is the most beautiful amazing place on Earth. I always wanted to go during the winter with 4-5 hours of daylight… it’ll be an incredible experience!

Sorry, I’m not helping.

Did you have any sort of discussion that would indicate clearly that it’s coming soon? It sounds like it is though. But waiting Bees have a tendency to overthink the details and signs, so it’s hard to say. You guys have a lot coming up, with many opportunities for a proposal. My guess? If he’s serious about this he’s going to propose before the family trip.

Unless he doesn’t know your family or you don’t know his (you don’t mention whose family is going on the trip). If you (or he) haven’t (hasn’t) spent time with the family that is going on this trip, he may want this opportunity to make sure you get along with his family or that he gets along with yours. 

My advice is to chill (obviously). No expectations = no disappointment. Just assume that it will happen after the May trip, so you can calm down while bracing yourself if it doesn’t happen sooner. Give yourself a date at which time you will have a serious discussion about this. It sounds like your lives are intertwined and there are children involved, so you deserve to know what’s going on if it doesn’t happen soon. As we’ve seen from these boards, men can be very serious about getting engaged while taking their sweet ass time due to pressures, obligations, whatever.

Until that date, don’t talk to him about it (use the Bee if you need to discuss/vent!). Never assume it will happen before that date you set in your mind. Focus on what WILL happen – the trips, romantic moments, etc. Be happy that you have a wonderful relationship. Set yourself some personal goals to keep your mind off the proposal. 

Fingers crossed that it’ll happen soon; we look forward to your proposal story! (If it’s in Iceland, please take a pic of your ring with a gorgeous landscape… ok sorry I’ll stop)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@VintageViolins:  I haven’t had any times where I was SURE it would happen…but I have had times where I thought hmmm he might do it tonight! But didn’t…

I just try to enjoy what the night/trip is really about. Spending time together, seeing a new place, and having fun. Usually by the time I’m actually on the trip I forget that I thought he might propose.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@aprilnewbee:  Well I think, if nothing else, he definitely has the idea in his head 😉

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@aprilnewbee:  I meant the family trip in May. OMG THE BLUE LAGOON. After going there, I was seriously the most relaxed I’ve ever felt in my entire life. It was amazing. Enjoy your trip! Wow the most romantic restaurant… I seriously have my heart set on an Iceland proposal for you and I don’t even know you 😛 hahaha 

Post # 12
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Newbee

@aprilnewbee:  Thanks!! I am starry-eyed thinking about how romantic an Iceland proposal would be!! 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@aprilnewbee:  hmmm. It does sound like MAYBE he’s goint to do it soon but since you two have never had a conversation about it, I would not hold my breath. I’m really not trying to rain on your parade but I wouldn’t get overly excited and expect one on your trip.

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