- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
So, long story short, my DH and I called off our big “princess style” wedding and eloped. We’re happier than pigs in mud with our decision, and have settled comfortably into married life. We’re still planning a big blow-out BBQ for our first anniversary – sort of an elopement reception/vow renewal/anniversary party. No gifts, just enormous amounts of food, booze, dancing, laughter, and love. We’re working on invitations (the wording for those could be a Bee topic unto itself!) and preliminary planning now for next June.
The current order of events is to start off with our “officiant” (boho non-denominational spiritualist friend of ours) doing intros, we read “vows” (letters about what we’ve learned in our first year being married), then a champagne toast, then the food trucks/booze stations start serving. 10 minutes of formality, then 3-4 hours of revelry. It’s just a renewal/elopment, so we don’t see the need for a big to-do. However, DH and I have both had close friends approach us and say they’d like to do a reading, or sing a song, or play guitar. Something to commemorate us and the occasion. One includes DH’s older sister, who wants to read a love poem in Spanish for the guests from his side of the family. Inviting his side at all is a little contentious to some (his mom was opposed to the union) so the gesture of welcome and acceptance is very moving to us both. We are torn between being touched by these incredibly beautiful and heartfelt offers and the desire to keep things simple/moving quickly for our other guests. No one comes to an anniversary party expecting half an hour of speeches, singing, and poetry readings. The event is, overall, a lot less fussy than a “real” wedding ceremony. It’s a kind of delicate thing, you know?
Thoughts? How would you handle it if you were the bride here? Alternatively, have you been to an elopement reception that had a lengthier “ceremony”? Did you roll your eyes and check your watch?
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