Ready to start TTC at different times?

posted 3 months ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

currently in that situation.  Just put a post up about it a few days ago.  I’ve been ready for over a year now, and DH says he ‘thinks he will be ready in August’.  I honestly don’t get how you can know when you will be ready, but if he says so, I guess I’ll trust him.  However, it’s REALLY hard not to bring it up like once a week.  But I try to focus on other things like house projects.  It’s hard.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Yes! I am 3 years older than him so I was ready for marriage and babies way before he was. Since I couldn’t propose to myself (lol), I had to wait 5 years for the proposal and at that point, he told me “we can TTC now or get married first; you pick”. I chose the wedding, which happened a year and a half later, and we started TTC 2 weeks after we got married last summer.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I am in a similar situation- my husband needs an excessive amount of time to consider most decisions so when I wanted to discuss TTC, I approached him after having done mountains of research, budget sheets, logistical planning, etc.

When we had talked about babies in the past, he kept saying that he wouldn’t feel ready until he was done with his phD (we’re currently 26 and he just started-so we’d be 32ish by the time he finished) and I have had baby fever for YEARS now. I definitely wouldn’t be able to stop obsessing over it if we waited 6 years.

After I “presented my case” to him about a year ago, we compromised–sooooo we are starting TTC this July! I knew he would need to see all of the things I mentioned (budget, logistics, etc.) in order to be ready to even discuss having a baby. 

We’re 4 months away from TTC and if I’m being honest, I was a little bit concerned that he’d backtrack at the last hour and “need to think about it more” but suprisingly, he’s really excited and brings up baby talk unwarranted, which for him speaks volumes.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

We were the opposite, DH was ready way before me. Luckily he never pushed the issue and I came around eventually. 

We got married in 2011 and DH was probably ready in 2013 or 2014. I felt ready in 2015 and we were lucky to get pregnant after only two months. We now have a 9 month old. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We are the opposite too.  We already have a 19 month old son and we want a second child but we have different thoughts on when.  He keeps brining up TTC at the end of this year but I’m thinking more like spring/early summer 2018.  I guess it’s not a huge difference but I’m afraid once he is ready I’m going to give in during a moment of baby fever and have an oopsie- which wouldn’t normally be bad except at the end of this year I’ll have just finished my nurse practitioner degree and I’ll be looking for a new job.  I’d ideally like to find a job and be there for a few months before getting pregnant so I can get FMLA.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ve been ready for years. He’s ready emotionally but he has to have everything financially perfect lol. He is set up to retire at 55 and sometimes is way too concerned with the future and doesn’t understand that I do have a biological clock and if we have kids too late, his 55 retirement plan will be put on hold due to health care. Plus we have my disabled mother we take care of and she’s finally getting back surgery later this year, thank you Jesus lol. Will probably start trying mid 2018, right before I turn 30 :/.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

My DH was ready to have baby #2 almost immediately after our first, but it wasn’t until our LO was at least 2 that I was ready.

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