Post # 1
I know some will probably think I am crazy, but I really want the ring bearer to carry the REAL rings on the Pillow… or does it have to be a pillow?….
I think the significance is lost if the little guy (ex-charge of mine, very sensible- of course as I was his nanny!!) carries stunt rings! What do the bees think??… And is there anything else we could use instead of a pillow??
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Fox Hill Inn
We had our ring bearer carry our real rings and it was totally fine (he was 4).
We didn’t use a pillow, I made a ring holder from a wood coaster we bought on a US cross country drive and put a quote we liked on it and our wedding date. (I glued a couple pieces of fabric in the shape of a heart. The top piece was lace and I wove the ribbon through it.)
It was more special to us than a pillow would have been.
Post # 4
@London2014B2B: Honestly, it’ll be fine. I wouldn’t make him responsible for holding on to the rings before his walk down the aisle – but I can’t imagine the rings would go far since all eyes will be on him. Just avoid having the ceremony near and revines or active volcanos he could throw the ring into and you’ll be fine.
Post # 5
@London2014B2B: You could have him hold them in a nice little box so they’re less likely to fall. We personally aren’t going to have a ring bearer in our wedding, but if we did, we’d definitely give them decoy rings. I’d be really nervous to give a small child our real rings!
Post # 6
@London2014B2B: I’m having my nephews (4 & 7) carry the real ones. 🙂 They will feel incredibly important with the real ones. We are either doing the ring books (one for each ring since I have 2 ring bearers) that I will install a ribbon closure to keep it shut, OR, doing “ring security” in which case they’ll each have one of these:
Post # 7
We did real rings. I assumed it would be fine. The ring bearer carrying the pillow was 4. I didnt want to knot it, because it would take too long to get the rings off the pillow during the ceremony, so I just tied them on with a bow. Before going down the aisle, the rings flew off the pillow 4 times. Bad idea. Our best man suggested attaching them to the pillow with a safety pin. It wasnt visible to anyone but us, was super fast to get them off during the exchange of rings, and I knew they would still be on the pillow at the end of the aisle. It worked awesome for us!
Post # 8
@London2014B2B: While the picture doesn’t show it very well, our ring bearer really did carry our rings and then the Best Man took them off and handed them to us when we did the ring exchange.
Our ring bearer was 4 at the time and very responsible. Plus I bribed him with toys, lol.
I think its ok to have them carry them down the aisle because honestly so many eyes are on him he isn’t going to chuck them at someone, and if he does get rowdy with the pillow or something, someone can be there to take it from him and hold it.
**I will note–our ring bearer actually dropped the pillow on accident before the ceremony, and I didn’t notice until I had seen the video. It was hilarious. No harm, no foul. He quickly picked up the pillow, looked around, and walked out, lol.
Post # 9
If you are going to use the real rings,just make sure they (and the holder) are not given to the ring bearer until he starts down the aisle. There really isn’t much that can happen to them in the walk down the aisle.
You can use anything you like instead of a pillow. Pick something that is meaningful to you or fits with your wedding theme,venue etc
Post # 10
Our ring bearer is 5 and he’s carrying the real rings. He’s carrying a small bamboo fishing rod with the rings tied to the end. His dad is the best man so he’ll be walking down the aisle right to his dad with the rings. It’ll be fine as long as you have someone keeping an eye on him and not allowing him to hold onto them BEFORE he walks down the aisle.
Post # 11
I had no idea people didn’t give their real rings to the ring bearer. I agree with PPs.. Don’t give them to him until he is about to go down the aisle, but I think it’s fine.
Post # 12
@Soon2BeMrsS: that is awesome!!!
Post # 13
My son will be our ring bearer. I didn’t know folks gave the little guys decoy rings?! My kiddo will be carrying the real rings. This post is coming at a great time as I am about to purchase my ring box online! The rings will be in a closed box. My son will be six by then, and he should know not to fling the box. He requested a gift in order to do the job, so I will have leverage, haha!