Post # 1
What does this mean?!? My SO said he would tell me something if I stopped asking questions about what the hold up was. My curiosity won out and I said ok. So he says I’ve been to five stores in our town and real, nice rubies are hard to find. Cue me dying!
Does this mean he still can’t find something good enough? How long will this postpone things? I know its the beginning of the month but I told him I would absolutely not accept a March proposal. Like would say no.
Are there any pretty ruby rings out there yall can show me?
Post # 3
@subtlebee: You guys have only been together a year, you proposed at 7 months, and now you simply must be proposed to by the end of the month??? Chill, let him find a ring, and more importantly make sure he’s completely ready for this. How can a proposal be special if he’s strong-armed with an ultimatum?
Post # 4
@BuBuBubbles: He’s ready. His mom and my mom have also been looking so it isn’t stalling. He’s known I was the one well before I proposed, he just needed the push (his words). I’m just worried b/c if I had wanted a diamond we’d be done by now!
Post # 5
@subtlebee: “I know its the beginning of the month but I told him I would absolutely not accept a March proposal. Like would say no.”
You’re kidding, right? This is the guy that you feel so head over heels for that you proposed at seven months in, and you would say no to him if he proposed in March because he couldn’t find the perfect ring? Haven’t you only been together for nine months at this point? Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint.
Post # 6
@subtlebee: The Natural Sapphire Company sells rubies.
Post # 7
@subtlebee: Why the rush? If you know he is ‘the one’ why would you say no if he proposed a week later than you demand?
Also, engagement isn’t the end. You still have to get married, then the real work begins with the marriage.
Post # 8
@subtlebee: Whats so unacceptable about a March proposal? Why is by the end of this month so important??
Post # 9
@BuBuBubbles: +a million.
Post # 10
@cmbr: If I were a man and I heard that line I would run, not walk away from the relationship. Especially after less than a year AND a proposal at 7 months.
Post # 11
@subtlebee: My ruby is real BUT it has been treated:
I picked out the setting, FI picked out the ruby. The jewelry store we went to (Diamond’s Direct) had four rubies overnighted from NYC for him to look at and pick. Trust me, even though it has been treated, it is still real, pretty, and pricey.
Personally, I think that the thing is that a lot of jewelry stores don’t have a lot of respect for colored gemstones as engagement rings. You might have to see if the jewelry stores have relationships with ruby vendors to have some shipped. Good luck with your search!
Edit: I just wanted to add that I can’t even begin to imagine how much my ring would be for the same look but untreated. Untreated rubies like that are very expensive and I wish people would have more respect for them!
Post # 12
@cmbr: I’m curious about this too! What’s so awful about March that you absolutely cannot get engaged then? Unless, perhaps, every single day of March this year is taken up with birthdays and weddings and you don’t want to “steal anyone’s thunder.”
If you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, then does an extra month really matter? It may be frustrating waiting on him to propose, but will another month or two of not having a ring on your finger (because you’re already engaged to him!) really make that much difference?
Post # 13
You sound like you’re pushing him into a marriage with you. He said he “needed the push”? I dont think I could be with someone that i needed to push to want to marry me. “but I told him I would absolutely not accept a March proposal. Like would say no.” im kinda surprised he put up with that comment..
Post # 14
@MRSsrm85: that ring is beautiful, congrats!
Post # 16
@cmbr: “Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint.” WELL SAID!!!
If you love him and he really is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, why would you say no if he asked on March 1 versus February 28?