"real waiting" bee proposal question

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: expect an extravagant proposal
    no, just get it over with : (19 votes)
    40 %
    yes : (4 votes)
    8 %
    hell yes, I deserve it : (7 votes)
    15 %
    other : (4 votes)
    8 %
    no : (14 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I wouldn’t say I’ve been “waiting” for 5 years, but we have been together that long. I don’t expect some lavish proposal, but I would hope some thought and care goes into it. He’s not an over-the-top kind of guy, so it would shock me for him to do something showy. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    62 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m told my SO that as long as he looks me in the eyes, says some nice things about me, and asks the question, then I’d be pretty happy.

    He laughed and said so if I burst in on your while you were on the toilet and did that, you’d say yes?  I just rolled my eyes and said “whatever”

    We’ve been together almost 7 years.  I don’t care about the proposal as such, and it doesn’t have to be big, just meaningful.  His twin brother proposed to his wife whilst he was driving down a winding road by saying “so….should we go get your grandmother’s ring resized?”  No eye contact.  No preamble.  I’ve told SO that if he dares to do anything like that he will get a big, fat NO.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’ve been dating my guy for 6 years. We went to prom together and he never held up a sign that said “will you go to prom with me?” we just knew we would go together. That being said, for a marriage proposal, I would like to have something thought out. I don’t need fireworks though. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @beemo:  Okay I’m in the ‘yes’ but not the ‘hell yes I deserve it’, I feel the pain of waiting too but this feels a little one sided and not about the relationship unless that is the dynamic of the relationship.  My BF has alluded that the engagement will be wonderful and worth the wait, and it’s funny because he talks the engagement as HIS moment too, and the wedding is not for me but it’s HIS day too lol.  This conversation just reminds me of this.

    Frankly, we could be on the couch and I’d think that was special.  Any proposal is worth having!

     

     

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    446 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve been dating my SO for a little over 6 years now. Ideally, I would love a thoughtful proposal in a special place, but I’m honestly to the point where I just want to get it done. I didn’t really feel like I was waiting until about two years ago. Since then, countless, and I mean countless, friends/family members have gotten engaged and married. Not to mention we have been together longer than many have known their fiance/wife/husband. I think I’ve just reached the point of going to the courthouse and getting it done! 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I just passed the 8 year mark. I fluctuate between “just get it over with already” to wanting something special. However, in my mind, most all proposals are special in their own way, so even if mine is low key, it’ll be special. I am not expecting, nor do I want a public, flashmob type proposal, even though I like watching the videos on youtube! that’s not us, so I wouldnt even begin to dream of something like that. I honestly can’t imagine what my “perfect” proposal would look like, but as long as he’s the one doing the proposing, I don’t care, though clearly, the sooner the better at this point! 🙂

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