- 3 years ago
So I thought I would share the recent developments in my life… to encourage bees who are overwhelmed or who are losing perspective.
My wedding is July 20, so… a little more than two weeks.
A week ago my mom called me [bawling] and told me that she has a mass in her ovary that is probably cancer. I immediately drove 4 hours to be with my folks while they get this sorted out (she’s going to have to travel (soon) to the city I live in to get decent care (read: surgery)).
[Meanwhile I am losing what some might consider pretty precious wedding planning time… …which isn’t as stressful as thinking about a wedding without my mom there or in good health]
And then TODAY I got a call from one of my good friends’ girlfriends telling me that he was in a nearly fatal accident. He was riding his bike to the coast and a mini cooper hit him going high speed. He was flown to the same hospital my mom will soon be in, and praise the Lord has regained consciousness.
[Oh, and did I mention that this friend was the caterer for the reception and that I now need to come up with a completely new plan for the food at my wedding?]
I definitely feel a little shell shocked. But at the end of the day I feel these things:
1. The people I love are WAY MORE IMPORTANT than the actual wedding itself. So what if we have to have Burger King at the reception? My friend survived! I’m so GLAD! And so what if I only have half the time I planned on having to put finishing touches on things – it’s so much more important to be here supporting my mom in this terrifying new chapter of her/my life.
2. Getting married to my FH is still going to happen on the 20th. I love him, and I can’t wait to commit myself to him for life. That’s the WHOLE POINT of a wedding. And so even if it’s really janky and emotionally charged, my wedding will still be whole.
I hope that this will encourage some of you who are feeling frustrated/stressed about the details of your day… even if only in a “there’s someone out there who has it WAY WORSE” kind of way. Sigh!!