- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Right now I feel sooo upset when in truth I should be sooo happy… my mother is not the easiest of people to get along with at times but nevertheless I keep trying to do the right thing even if it is not exactly repriocated.
So today we were sending out our Save the date cards (very early but as we are having a Destination wedding for us but in the country where my family live) we wanted to give our family and friends from this country plenty of time to save etc. Anyways earlier this year after 20+ years my father and I reconnected (another story) and my FI felt that we would like to extend an invitation to him and his wife, we asked him first as we knew that this may cause some feelings amongst other family members should he accept and therefore wanted to give again respect to all concerend that he may be there. He accepted and so I called my mother (who has never re-married and wanted to ask her if she wished to invite a guest also to help support her) to tell her personally that I am speaking to him and that he will be attending the wedding (now she has been telling me that I should contact him for the past 20 years!!). However when she found out and I was VERY gentle in my approach to it all… she asked me “So would you be upset if I was not there”? I asked her why should would ask such a thing and she finally admitted that she wanted to see if she said she was not going would I cut my father!!!
she then went into WHY I was not having it closer to where she lives and then WHY I was not inviting certain people and so on… eventually it lead to an argument and me getting very upset when I said WHY was she making it all about her!!
I ended up putting the phone down because I was so upset with things she was then saying about me and then my father etc…
I know I will have to call her but at this stage I am unsure what to do about it all – My FI is concerned that she will cause problems on the wedding day if she is doing this at this point…
I would appreciate anyones thoughts about what you would do in a situation like this as we often only see things from one side….