Really annoyed about how my grandmother responded to my moissanite ring set :-(

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Eh, she’s old. I’m sure she views anything other than diamond as cheap, because that’s how the jewelry industry has always marketed/advertised. If you’re happy, that’s all that matters. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have not (because mine is not a moissy), but ignore her…it is so beautiful! I mean I don’t think it could be anymore classic than that beautiful set. Sometimes it takes people a little while to come around to new ideas. Also you are not required to tell people that your ring is a moissy anymore than people are required to tell people that their’s is a diamond. Seriously though, don’t let her get you down.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

That’s dumb she admires it then dislikes it because its not a diamond? Pfft. She probably wouldn’t have known better had you.not told her, but good for you for sticking up for your moissy 🙂 . Hopefully soon people will appreciate moissanites as their own stones rather. Than a “knock off” I mean if I wore a tanzanite I doubt people would say “hey that’s a fake sapphire!”.

From first clicking this I saw a solitaire and thought it was very traditional, what could she not like about it? I agree she should’ve been happy you got what you wanted.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Thankfully I have not experienced this with any of my family – and anyone who knows me well would be smart enough to know to keep any such rude comments to themselves because I have a pretty sharp tongue. Wink

I am sorry that you’ve had this experience though and I’m going to echo what other PPs have said to ignore it, even though it might be hard to do since it’s coming from a relative. As long as you and your fiance are happy with your ring, then that it all that matters. And it is a beautiful ring Smile

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is why I do not tell people I have an asha.  Why bother?  I have no interest in their opinion and somehow if you tell them they seem to think you are asking to hear their 2 cents.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I probably wont tell people a thing simply because I refuse to have to deal with their issues. Your ring is AH-MAY-ZING.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BlondeMissMolly:  agreed. My grandmother would probably react the same. Older people are ignorant about things especially stuff like this….just like some of the posters on here. Ignore her. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Ehhhh, my grandmother grew up with diamonds being the end-all-be-all for engagement rings, and were considered the “elite” standard. So when my cousin decided to get a gemstone ring she was confused. She didn’t mean to be rude, but she asked her, “Is that your engagement ring?” Obviously it was, but my grandma didn’t understand why her husband to be didn’t get her a diamond and could not really understand why she didn’t want a diamond. Eventually my grandma accepted that times have changed and diamonds are still a common stone choice, but that they certainly aren’t the only choice, and NOT having a diamond certainly does NOT mean you don’t have money/can’t afford it. For instance, said cousin is a pediatric doctor and her husband is a CPA. Some people don’t want a diamond, some people like bling over cost, some people don’t like colorless, some people like plain, some people like blingy, some people want a diamond, some people like halos, some people like solitares, etc. etc.

I think for some people, especially those from a time where diamonds were really pushed, it is hard to understand why people would go a non-diamond route. But it certainly doesn’t excuse them for making rude comments, just makes the comments make a little more sense to me.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Honestly, I think it makes her look foolish. That she was mooning over it and praising it until she found out it wasn’t the rock she presumed it to be really hilights that she doesn’t care about the beauty of the stone, just the perceived momentary value you display on your hand.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I did go out for drinks once and one of my classmates who’s also engaged was eyeing up my 1.5ct moissanite ring. Hers was a diamond and VERY slightly smaller than my stone, and when I told her it was moissanite she said, “Phew. I was going to say why doesn’t MY fiance love ME that much…” Not quite sure what she meant by that, but I don’t think it was a particularly nice comment.

Your ring is beautiful and you can never please everyone. Luckily, whilst it’s nice if others can like what is special to you just as much as you do, it really does only need to be special to you and your FI. 

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