Really bad waiting day, need some support

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1360 posts
Bumble bee

I totally understand. Every time I see an acquaintance I haven’t seen in a while, they ask me if I’m engaged. When I say no, they look away and say something implying that my relationship isn’t serious. 

It pisses me off.

But you know what, screw them. My strategy: I pretend that I really don’t give a shit about a proposal, so they don’t try to pursue the discussion. By all means, don’t get into these long conversations about when, why and how. Just ignore these people, smile and change the subject. I really don’t get why people care in the first place. You set your priorities, you’ve succeeded, so be happy that you made the right choices for you.

Good luck on the last days of waiting!!

Post # 5
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265 posts
Helper bee

Even though you two have been dating for a while, your co-workers need to consider your age. I have a friend who’s been dating her BF for about 6 years now, and people have always hassled her about not having a ring yet. She’s only 25! She’s still young. While you two are still young, you can just enjoy life! Your co-workers should mind their own business!

Post # 6
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2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Ignore your coworkers.  Seriously.  When you get engaged is none of their business.  You hit the nail on the head – you weren’t ready yet.  That’s all that you need to say.  And don’t apologize for it, either!   

And I can’t understand why he ‘has’ to propose on NYD.  I’ll be honest, I don’t like the idea of a holiday proposal.  There’s so much going on with the holidays already, and they’re usually both special and drama filled all on their own.  Proposing on a random day makes that day special for the two of you forever.  It’s like getting an extra special day in the year.  All that said, I’m sure I’d be thrilled if I got a holiday proposal and all of that would go out the window.  But I don’t see why he ‘has’ to propose that day.  

Post # 9
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265 posts
Helper bee

@NYCkindaBee:  

People always told my friend that her BF should propose to her on a holiday. I always tried to change the subject when this happened to her. He’s going to propose when he’s going to propose, and some people want it to be spontaneous and a surprise. 

Post # 10
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee

I think when people start being so nosy and trying to get into stuff that is non of their business you should draw a line. I know it’s hard because I sometimes struggle with being too nice. But seriously, setting some boundaries will save you from many uncomfortable situations like today. They only kept going because they knew they could get away with it. I get being friendly but they are coworkers, none of their business. Next time, just perhaps say you do not want to discuss your personal life. Or “we are good. We have some exciting plans for the next year. But we prefer to keep them to ourselves for now”. I don’t know. Maybe just crossing a line and showing them that your personal life is not up for discussion. It might be hard but so is putting up with their annoying behavior

 

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