Post # 1
I’m not sure if I should blame myself, why nobody warned me that daily activity had a good chance of damaging my settings, or if it’s poor craftsmenship/materials.
My engagement ring is white gold with ten prong mounted small diamonds, center stone in the middle. I should have known and take some responsibilty for not taking it if when I was moving boxes etc when we first moved into our place. One day I noticed it looked bent like the center diamond wasn’t pointing straight up at me but had been bent and was leaning to one side. I didn’t even tell FI right away because I didn’t want him to be upset and I didn’t want to hear the “you shoulda known to take it off” bit. I realize that. I asked a few people and they said that all I needed to do was take it to the jeweler and they would straighten it out, no biggie. A few weeks later one of the small diamonds fell out. Shit. So I put it up not to wear it until I get it repaired as the last thing I want is to lose my center stone due to my damaged setting. But at least I still had my wedding band to sport-until yesterday. This time it happened after getting my daughter up for school. Got up, put her hair in a ponytail, hopped in the car and I notice a squeezing feeling on my finger. DAMN IT- it was smooshed/smashed into an oval rather than round shape so much that I couldn’t get it off my knuckle, and of course, 2 small diamonds fell out of this one too. I had to come home and use pliars to squeeze it back just to get it off my finger. HOW IS THI POSSIBLE? COULD I BE SO WRECKLESS THAT I CAN RUIN THE THINGS THAT SOME PEOPLE WEAR THEIR ENTIRE LIVES WITHOUT RUINING? I don’t even want to repair my ring anymore. I’d rather wait and design my own setting using the diamonds from my first ring, and indestructable, low profile, platinum setting. UGH.
Post # 3
@Leemarie: That doesn’t sound like white gold. Is it stamped? Could it be rhodium plated silver? Silver is much more likely to bend like that. Also, can you post a picture of your rings? If the band is particularly thin that might make it more likely to bend.
Post # 4
@Leemarie: where did you get them from? that does not sound right. i’ve had my ring for years and have had zero issues.
Post # 5
Gold needs more than a bang to bend. Sounds like silver.
Post # 6
Yeah… that isn’t normal. Is it very thin? I wear my rings for everything and don’t have any worries or issues.
Post # 7
Is it 18k? It is usually pretty hardy. Platinum is softer, actually, than most gold alloy rings.
It shouldn’t cost too much to fix. Your jeweler may even do it free of charge. Mine told me he would, if things like that ever happened. He will even replace the little diamonds for free (just not the big one, that’s up to insurance). Hope your jeweler is similar.
Post # 8
I never, ever take my rings off no matter what I am doing (moving, scrubbing pots, etc.) and only have a couple scratches… I even bang it on the car window all the time when I smoke (don’t judge, lol). You need to get it to a jeweler asap, it should not be bent that easily.
Post # 10
I don’t recall seeing a “stamp”. I am sure that it is white gold. We bought from the jewelry exchange. I’ll see if I can post a pic. So, so far I’m gathering that wreckless or not, this isn’t at all normal.
Post # 11
There has to be something wrong… I work maitnence and have never bent my ring or knocked a stone out. It was 10k gold.
Post # 12
Agree with PPs saying this isn’t normal…the only thing I take off my rings for is the shower because my hands get so slippery. I wear them for work (including physical labor), cleaning, everything. I’d want to take them to the jewelers to get them fixed too, but I would also take them to a different jeweler than the one who sold them to you to get them inspected – gold should not bend so easily.
Post # 13
Sorry to say…This sounds like the ultimate in poor craftmanship. I wear my rings for everything. There is no way your ring should be bending that easily. It does sound like it could be silver instead of gold…either that or there is something wrong with the gold alloy.
Can you take it back to the jewelry shop where you bought it? The manufacturer/seller has some explaining to do.
Post # 14
I just went to get a pic and noticed that it is stamped 14k