- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 1990
I’m posting this under a pseudoname, not because I’m feeling guilty or anything, but because we’re going to have to take my stepson’s mom to court, and I don’t want things potentially getting messier than they are.
I don’t think I’ve ever been this angry in my entire life. This afternoon I (and DH) got an email from my stepson’s mom about sorting out weekends for this month. No biggie. We had sorted the last few months out literally a year ago because we knew this fall would be very busy. All of a sudden she decided to change things and wanted us to have him the next two weekends. Typically that wouldn’t be a big deal, except that we’re going away next weekend, and it’s my birthday, so that was a no go. Like I said, we had told her and sorted out weekends a year ago. That being said, we’ve also had my SS every single long weekend and Valentine’s Day this year. Even if it wasn’t our weekend. If she wanted to rearrange it, we did. It’s not like we’ve been inflexible to say the least.
So in this email, she just pokes and digs at how we’re going away and we should take him with us because she needs a break. She’s had him two weekends. We had him the two weekends before. It’s not like there’s been anything out of the normal going on. Then she goes on to attack DH about other stupid drama surrounding our wedding that was entirely her fault (again, we had sorted out weekends, she decided at the last minute to change EVERYTHING and then was furious when we wouldn’t bend over to accomodate her. Sorry lady, I was doing this whole wedding thing, I can’t babysit your kid too.).
THEN, this is what is really really really really really getting under my skin, she accuses DH of not paying his child support (huge and complete lie, he started giving her money when she was pregnant and has never ever missed a month), and says that he owes her all this money and because of that, she’s been going more and more into debt and that DH and I should get ourselves together, take on her debt and pay it off. Words cannot express how deeply offended, angry, and completely shocked I am. Literally every time I think about it, I start crying. I have no idea where any of this came from.
Last time I saw her (I typically avoid her because she is so unbelievably childish and two faced) was at our wedding, where she was wonderful with the kids, and where she and I had a few minutes and she gave me a huge hug and thanked me for everything I had done, and how I had been such a great addition to DH and my stepson’s life. I promised her I would always do my best for SS. I felt it was really big of her to say those things, I realize it can’t be easy for her either. But what, was that all just a lie?!
I honestly think she’s figured out that I (and/or my family) have some money and live comfortably and now she wants some of it. DH and I did a prenup exactly for this reason, I just hoped beyond all hopes we would never have a reason to use it. Now, within a year of being married, she goes on the attack looking for more money, insulting DH and I saying we never do anything to help (DH drives 1.5 hours each way to pick up and drop off his son every other weekend, she’s completely unwilling to even meet him halfway), and saying we should pay off her debt. I am literally shaking with anger. I’m not sure I have ever hated anyone in my life, but I really and truly hate her. She is a horrible despicable awful person. What the hell am I going to do?! How do we deal with her?! Now we have to go back to court to prove that DH has been paying his support (he actually pays about twice of what he’s “legally” supposed to), force her to start helping with the driving, force her to stick with the weekends we agreed upon, etc etc just to prove a point. I don’t even think hate is a strong enough word for what I feel for this woman. Ugh.
Thank you for letting me vent. Please send love and hugs. I really need it. DH is out for the night so I’m here sitting and stewing on my own.