Really depressed. Everyone getting pregnant around me but no luck for us

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hugs to you.  I know it’s really tough to hear other peoples pregnancy announcements when you are having difficulty TTC.  I’m 6 cycles TTC with no sticky baby yet, and so many of my friends are KU now.  You are not alone! Hang in there!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@AnotherAnonyBee:  Anyone having issues TTC has felt very similar to this so you are not alone. Everyone around me also has gotten pregnant without trying or in the first month of so of trying and i agree nothing is more annoying than people bragging about how fertile they are like it is some kind of competition. It can be hard because once someone you know is pregnant it feels like their pregnancy moves along so fast as every week is a milestone and growing belly is proof where when TTC it feels like everything moves so slow. Just try your best to limit how much time you dwell on not being pregnant and being down. Allow yourself to feel sad but don’t let this whole TTC journey be a time you look back on and not have allowed yourself any happiness. DH and I are trying to make the most of this time as just the two of us because once we do get pregnant we know that life will always be different. So as much as we want to get pregnant we are also loving and enjoying it being just us two while it still is.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m really sorry you have to go through this. I know life can sometimes suck. I also know there is nothing I can do to make you feel better or hurt any less but I hope that your turn to have a baby comes soon for you. I hope that all this suffering and pain is on it’s last legs and that you get your happy BFP very soon. I wish you love and hope for a brighter future and that your time will come very soon for you. All my love and prayers to you. xxx

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  Believe me, I have felt everything you are feeling. I was trying for 8 months when I got my BFP and, believe me, I would have wrapped myself in cotton wool in order to save my baby. Unfortunately it was not meant to be and baby’s heart stopping beating just under 10 weeks. 

 

What I haved learned from this:

 

– life is not fair: why did i (who tried for so long) lose my baby? Why do you have to try for this long while others blink and get pregnant. I can name 10+ people who got pregnant first cycle trying and nearly wear this like a badge of honour!!!

 

– these experiences make us stronger and when we do get our babies we will love and cherish them all the more. I really believe this.

 

– TTC is an incredibly tough journey. Why does nobody tell us this? I suggest you find someone who has experienced something similar to talk about this to. It’s only in the past while I’ve started to do this and it really helps. I’m even going to go to counselling.

If you would like someone who has experienced the same to chat to feel free to pm me x

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  Also, do you mind me asking why you’re on clomid? My obs (while I was pregnant) is a fertility expert and I will be meeting her soon to discuss options. Im doing research at the moment.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

🙁 big bear hugs to you! It’s so hard to accept pregnancies around you during this time. One of our closest friends (and the only couple who have a baby yet) announced theyre pregnant with #2…she has lots of issues and it has taken a good 18 months for this too happen (they weren’t REALLY trying, they believe very much in “if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t it doesn’t…mainly because they already have one) so I was so excited for her! But as soon as I heard I bawled and bawled and bawled. Lucky it wasn’t her who told me – it could have been awkward having that breakdown in front of her! Anyhow, I just wanted to share my sympathy and wish you all the very best and LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS OF ***BABY DUST***

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AlmostMrsShield:  Ah, that’s tough. I’m going through the same at the moment. At least now you can put your brave face on when you see her X

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

*Big Hugs* I’m really sorry you’re having a tough time. I don’t really have any advice but just wanted to stop in to give you a virtual hug and to say I hope you get your beautiful BFP soon!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@AnotherAnonyBee:  I’m so sorry you are going through this – I’m going through the exact same thing. Three of my very best, closest friends are giving birth very soon, and another just announced she’s pregnant with her second. I’ve tried to be as supportive as I could be during their pregnancies, but there were moments when it was just too much for me too handle. I’ve broken down over the fact that it seems some women get pregnant if her partner sneezes on her, whereas it would appear that, after 4 cycles, for my husband and me, it may end up being a whole different kind of journey.

All I can say to you is what I’ve told myself each time I’ve gotten my period since we started trying – hang in there, and count all of the blessings in your life. Life could be much, much worse, no matter what ends up happening with TTC.

Sending you love and baby dust!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@AnotherAnonyBee:  Ah, god love you. I really hope that they regulate your periods for you very soon. 

Also, you should consider joining the 6+ month thread. There are lots of women who understand there and it’s a great place to vent!!!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I felt like this a lot now when we were TTC for a year, and I was extremely upset by all of the pregnacy announcements.  Especially after a couple of losses.

However, now that I’m pregnant I look at it a lot differently.

You don’t know how long those people were trying to get pregnant, in most cases.  Sure there is going to be the couple that accidently got pregnant or the ones that it only took one try.  But for a majority of us, it takes a while.  So just know that at one time, those people were in your shoes as well.  And you’ll have your moment.  And when you do, someone else is likely to be upset by it because they are still trying as well. 

It’s completely normal to feel the way you do, but I just wanted to give you a little perspective from someone who has been in your shoes that is now on the other side.

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