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All of our photos are in now, and I can't help but feel disappointed. I loved our photographer, and he did a great job of catching quality photos in a cool and artistic way, but I feel like most of his pictures are super unflattering of me. :( In half of them, I look pregnant. In the ones with our families, several people have their eyes closed and I look constipated. In a lot of our couple shots and in everything taken after them, my hair looks totally disheveled (it was windy), my makeup looks fake, and I've got a massive number of shots where I just look very tired*. It's like he tried on purpose to get my worst possible angles and expressions, but in the end, I have to conclude that with so many photos saying it, the logical answer is that I was the problem--not him. Every time I look at my photos, I feel sick about how far I was from the "beauty" ideal. Anyone else feel like they're the glaring blight in their own wedding photos?
*EDIT: really sorry for the "fat cow" comment--I took it out and do apologize as I certainly wasn't intending to offend anyone! I don't want this to be an attention-seeking thread. Was just looking for some support with post-holiday weight gain blahs and photo regret.
You looked gorgeous in every photo I've seen. I know I have different feelings about photos when I see them in a bad mood and when I'm in a good mood. Is that a possibility?
Okay, so I just went and looked at your photos and you look gorgeous! There is no way you looked pregnant or fat in any of the photos. And you look so happy!
Okay so I just looked back at your recaps. Umm, are you INSANE? What are you, like a size zero?? You definitely do not look pregnant or constipated.
This is most definitely all in your head. Take it from a size 16 bride....you don't look like a fat cow......
whoa. So I gotta say, with the picture you just painted of yourself, I really didn't expect to click on your photos and see someone who looks like a model!
I just looked at a couple of your pictures.. and fat cow? for real? Alot of us girls would do anything for your figure! you havea killer bod! And besides that you are stunningly beautiful! Trust me, yolu've got nothing to complain about... But if you are disappointed i'm sure your photographer took thousands of pictures and you are only seeing a small portion. Ask him if there are any that arent as heavily edited (raw) and see if you like them any better :)
Go back and read the comments from your recaps and see if that makes you feel better. If you still wish your pics turned out better, maybe have a professional photo session on your anniversary.
@StaceyMay81: hahah right? i was NOT expecting her to look like that after the post she just wrote!
I can only imagine what I will look like in my pics if someone as tiny and beautiful as you considers those to be ugly pictures of herself. (Sigh)
I'm going to try and answer this as rationally as possible. If you really think you look like a 'fat cow' then I think you need professional help for some form of body dysmorphia. If you don't, then please don't post things like this as it makes other Bees who are larger than you feel bad. Good luck with whatever issues you have.
I agree with everyone else -- I just looked at your recap photos, and you look absolutely gorgeous!
Thanks for the support girls. I do like the ones I posted, but those were the very best ones that the photog gave as a sample, and the other half were guest pics. DH loves all the photos, but I can't help wishing I looked better in some of the post-portraits-outside ones where everything went pear-shaped! Hoping it's just a phase that will pass as we get some distance from the wedding.
Really sorry for the fat cow comment--didn't mean to be at all offensive. Doesn't everyone feel like that at times? In a bit of a depressive post-holiday "i-feel-gross" mood...
@Ivyperks: This was said much better than I could have ever put it. As someone who is actually overweight (by clothing size, BMI, life long ridicule, etc) take it from me, you looked fine.
I just took a peek at your recap photos and I was expecting some hideous creature lol. You are beautiful! And you look amazing in your photos. I know those were just a sample, but photographers take so many that unfortunately you are bound to have some where you don't look great. Pic the ones you look good in, make and album,adn ditch the rest.
Please don't be offended but I laughed when I read your post, why? Because I always do that to myself too. We are our worst critics. Stop tearing yourself apart, you are goregous and look FABULOUS on your wedding day. Seriously, you're making the rest of us hate you because you're so gorgeous and SKINNY!
I really hope you DO get over how you're feeling, as you really were a beautiful bride. We all get some terrible pictures taken at some point, so maybe if you focus more on the truly gorgeous ones they'll make you smile. I think you were stunning in every one I've seen!
@UK Bride: Frankly, my dear, this smells of eating disorder... you are teeny and beautiful, and feeling so badly about yourself when you look so wonderful points to something being seriously wrong. :/
Well all I can say is I hope I look half as good as you did on my wedding day! Seriously...I think you and your wedding looked beautiful!
I don't think the OP was trying to be insensitive or offensive guys. Everyone is allowed to have a bad day and feel like they're not looking their best. Let's not read too deeply into this okay?
OP: We are our own worst critics. Your photos are gorgeous, you are definitely gorgeous, and you could make a beautiful album from the ones you posted. I'm sure you still have a ton of wonderful shots. Just maybe take a break from looking at them and step back from it all for a few days. Post holiday/wedding blahs sometimes take more of a toll on us than we realize :)
@bakerella: I hope that my post wasn't deemed to be any form of attack. If you read the OP's PPs about her photos you'll see that there have been a wealth of complimentary responses: talk of her submitting them to magazines, copious remarks that she should be a model, etc, etc. Reading those lead me to the two conclusions I drew, above. I hope and know WB can be a supportive community to those who need help; there are a large number of Bees who can help with ED issues. But by the same token, WB also shouldn't be the venue to cater to people who feel the need to seek attention at the cost of others feelings. I'm not saying OP is in the latter category, but from being here a while (Although not as long as you!) these threads can get heated!
They only get heated when other people go on the attack from something that's innocently said.
You looked absolutely gorgeous in the pics you posted! I would just be happy that I got even that many good pics on my wedding day! I hope you start to feel better about your pictures in a little while. I know how disappointing something can be for me when I have a specific idea or certain expectation of how I want things to turn out. And when they don't turn out exactly like it was in my head I get really upset. But eventually I always come around and start to warm up to the differences. Give it more time and go back and look at them at a later time. Maybe you will feel differently about them.
UK Bride-
You're right, everyone has a right to "ugly chubby days." I'm considerably larger than you, but still within a healthy BMI, and I have days where I feel like nothing fits right, my skin is terrible, I hate my thin hair, etc. But if you're really feeling this way about *those* photos, you need to re-evaluate the way you're looking at yourself.
I'm not even going to go so far as to say you should seek help, but I will ask you to consider how kind and compassionate we are when we look at others, and how utterly awful we can be to ourselves. I know i give 99% of people 10x more leeway than I would ever think to give myself.
I've come very close to ruining relationships, and have certainly cheated myself out of a fair amount of happiness and carefree times because I've been so harsh on my physical appearance, or my wit/charm/intelligence/interesting-ness or lack thereof.
A really wonderful therapist taught me about self-compassion, and I think we could all use a little more of that.
To OP- You were an absolutely gorgeous bride and had a beautiful wedding. I am sorry you feel so disapponted with the photos, but like others I went back and looked at your pics and thought they were amazing. There is NO way you will like each and every shot of yourself. The pics I saw wre like out of a magazine.. honestly. Don't be so hard on yourself. I think it is ridiculous for others to be offended because of the "fat cow" comment, I am NO twig and don't feel offended by this comment as it wasn't directed at me or any other Bee....People need to not be offended so easily.
I am really confused, I just saw your wedding photos and unless i was looking at someonelses then u are most defiantly bonkers ;0 ) U look sensational
The photographer def isn't the problem (which everyone else is also saying, perhaps in a nicer way).
So I just went and looked at your recaps and OMG if I look 1/10th as beautiful as you did on my wedding day I would be so content. Your photographer is very photojournalistic in style - so the pictures have a very real quality to them, not modelesque. But in all of them I see this gorgeous tall thin brunette who is graceful and having a wonderful emotional day.
If you want some more model type shots I might suggest doing a couples shoot or trash the dress session. But honestly you look amazing and I think you are very critical of yourself :)
First of all, I was expecting horrible stuff by your post- and when I looked at your recaps I gasped. They are quite literally GORGEOUS. I think you need to look at the photos and pretend they aren't you. Pretend you opened up a wedding magazine and saw these photos. How would you feel about them? I'm sure you'd think they were gorgeous and the bride looked amazing. It is hard when our first gut reaction is to be hard on ourselves, but try to look at them from an outsider perspective.
I think your pictures look great and you look great!!!! Don't be so hard on yourself :)
Everyone is their own worst critic. Rest assured...no one else is seeing you the way you are seeing yourself. You looked beautiful, the pictures are great. There's no way anyone would think you were pregnant.
@UK Bride: You are really pretty and super tiny. Fat cow? Seriously, its all in your head.
I'm sorry but I dont understand this thread AT ALL. I think you are very aware that you are not a "fat cow" nor are you overweight in anyway. You happily shared the link to where you had been blogged and posted several pictures of yourself because you were happy with the photos, so I dont understand why you decided to post this. I personally find it insulting to people that actually are overweight when a slim person calls themselves fat in a derogatory way.
Maybe you should concentrate on how happy you were that day, rather than trying to live up to some non-existent "beauty ideal."
@Ivyperks: I agree with you. My thoughts exactly.
That said, we are all our own worst critics. I'm sorry you are disappointed with your pics, UK Bride, but I think they're amazing. You look really happy and it looks like it was a joyous celebration, and that is what matters.
I actually commented on one of your recaps. I thought your photos were fantastic and you looked amazing. If you really disliked your photos so much why did you post so many in your recaps? It didn't seem as though you had anything negative to say about them then.
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