(Closed) Really disappointed, not sure if I should change the wedding date?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What day should I have the wedding?
    Go for the more affordable (and prettier!) venue on a Sunday : (64 votes)
    89 %
    Pay extra to have the original venue on a Saturday : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Move the wedding to a different city and keep looking : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Other... please explain below, thanks! : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m not a fan of weekday weddings, but I think Sunday should be fine! I wouldn’t do it too late in case you have Out of Town guests, but other than that it will be great! I’ve actually thought of doing it just because it’s cheaper. If you think about it, Sunday’s no different than Saturday. They’re both butted up against a weekday! It’ll be fine.

    I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time finding a place!

    Post # 4
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’d move it to a Sunday. I feel you about the $1800 ceremony fee, my venue is charging me $1500 to set up chairs on a beach they own.

    Post # 5
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think sunday weddings are fine! I totally understand your fustration! Weddings are WAYYY to expensive!

    Post # 6
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Wow, that’s insane.. at the country club I’m getting married at they only charge $600 for the ceremony fee.

    I would do the Sunday wedding!

    Post # 8
    16216 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Change to Sunday and get the nicer venue. Sounds like it will make you happier. 🙂

    Post # 9
    703 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted B by accident.  I meant A!!!!

    Post # 10
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Do Sunday! If you start earlier than normal so it won’t go to late into the night then people won’t duck out early.

    Post # 11
    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If I were you I would look into other venues that will be available on a day you want and in your price range. I spent a lot of time researching venues for my wedding and I did not stop until I had both. I know you are probably excited about getting married, but do not rush into something that will dissapoint you. If you have a Sunday wedding you have to expect that your guests are going to have to leave early because odds are that they will have work the next day. Also, out of town guests may have to decline given the day of the week. Personally, I would rather wait another year to get married if that meant I could have it on a day I want it. Mine will be on a Saturday and my fiance and I plan to party with our guests until the wee hours of the night. But that’s just us.

    You have to weigh your options and go with what makes you happy. If you go with the Sunday wedding, just make sure you give your guests plenty of notice so they can request the following Monday off of work if necessary. Take a few days to think about this and see how your fiance feels about it. I almost chose a venue that was so expensive we could only afford 50 guests max. because I liked the venue and I wanted to set a date so bad. I gave it a week and did my research. We decided on a nicer and way cheaper venue and now we get to have almost 100 guests and a very nice wedding. I am so happy I was patient or I would have regretted my decision forever.

    Post # 12
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Oh, I can so sympathize with the venue problem!  If it’s your only option that you love, then I’d take it.  And give people PLENTY of forewarning (for lack of a better word) about when it’ll be so they can make arrangements earlier.

    Where I live, unless it’s in a church (no offense to church brides, but for me, it ain’t gonna happen) your options are not only limited, but EXPENSIVE!!!!  (Of course, I DO live in an area where there is a church on practically EVERY CORNER.  Talk about annoying…)

    Maybe you could look around at places like that for a venue?  Also, I called a wedding planner and since I was only wanting help with a venue, I wasn’t charged anything and had A LOT of options I wouldn’t have known of, otherwise.  That might also help…

    We lucked out because my FI’s family have been going to this venue (it rents cabins) for the past several years and have become good and well-liked clients.  So we got to talk to the owner and was told that it’s only $2k for 130 guests and that his only thing is that MOST of the cabins would have to be rented by the guests. 

    Not a big deal, since that’s gonna be our request from our friends: no presents, just rent a cabin together! the same for his family that’ll be coming from out of town.

    Post # 13
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I have no problems with a Sunday wedding (since my wedding is going to be on a Sunday). If you don’t mind having a Sunday wedding, I’d say go for it. Save the money!

    Post # 14
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a Sunday wedding. It sounds like you’re having an afternoon wedding to keep things a little bit earlier so I don’t see any issue at all. You can totally have a lovely ceremony and fun reception and still get people home in time for bed so they can go to work the next day.

    Of course, I’m having a Sunday wedding myself. 😉

    Post # 15
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think you should do the Sunday wedding (I may be biased b/c we are having one too).  Most of our guests are within an hour or two also and honestly, even ones that are farther away that we expected to decline are coming.  The people that really want to be there for you will come to your wedding whenever it is.  They are not coming for dinner or dancing or to sit in a pretty room.  All of those things are wonderful, but they’re coming to share a special day with you and see you get married, on whatever day you choose.

    Post # 16
    660 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t see anything wrong with a Sunday wedding. Some people find it rude, but I disagree. If they think a Sunday wedding is inconvenient for them, they don’t have to attend. I considered a Sunday wedding as a cost saving option, but the difference in price was only $500 so it wasn’t worth it to me since I’d always imagined a Saturday reception ending late into the evening. Well, that’s not happening since they end our event @ 10 p.m. NO exceptions! Have your wonderful even on Sunday…. it will be great!

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