Post # 1
I have spent such a long time looking at venues and had to cross so many off the list because we didn’t meet their minimum numbers. We’re having approx 75 people. Well I finally found this dream venue and it said that packages ranged from 60-110 per person so I figured I could keep costs low by not upgrading tons of linens, decor, etc. Well we just had our meeting there and they tell us that because we have such low attendance that it’s going to cost $107 per person for the basic package! wtf?! I’m so upset, I actually cried on the way home because I’ve run out of options on other venues and can’t believe that the cost went up that much simply because we’re under 100 ppl. And on top of that we were told that it would cost $1800 to use the gazebo to get married. Not that they would do anything extra for the ceremony, just that in order to stand on their grass and say I do, it costs almost 2000! that’s insane. I don’t live in a fancy big city where weddings should cost this much so I was shocked.
I have one option left, but this requires me to switch the wedding day to a Sunday because that’s the only way we can get married there without meeting the minimums. Is this worth it? I know some people are really against Sunday weddings because they see it as rude to the guests, but if we have the ceremony in the afternoon, eat at normal dinner time, then nobody would have to stay too late… any advice bees?
Oh and just to add, the ceremony fee for the Sunday wedding is only $300 and the grounds and reception room are way nicer.
Post # 3
I’m not a fan of weekday weddings, but I think Sunday should be fine! I wouldn’t do it too late in case you have Out of Town guests, but other than that it will be great! I’ve actually thought of doing it just because it’s cheaper. If you think about it, Sunday’s no different than Saturday. They’re both butted up against a weekday! It’ll be fine.
I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time finding a place!
Post # 4
I’d move it to a Sunday. I feel you about the $1800 ceremony fee, my venue is charging me $1500 to set up chairs on a beach they own.
Post # 5
I think sunday weddings are fine! I totally understand your fustration! Weddings are WAYYY to expensive!
Post # 6
Wow, that’s insane.. at the country club I’m getting married at they only charge $600 for the ceremony fee.
I would do the Sunday wedding!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! You’re all making me feel a lot better about changing the venue. I think it makes more sense because I love the venue, the food is better, and it costs $4000 less! I was just worried about how my guests would feel, but the furthest away any of my guests are is about a 2 hour drive, so even if they left a few hours after dinner they would still get home at a decent time. Hopefully this works out, we’re going to the venue on Thursday to go over everything again and hopefully book it!
Post # 8
Change to Sunday and get the nicer venue. Sounds like it will make you happier. 🙂
Post # 9
I voted B by accident. I meant A!!!!
Post # 10
Do Sunday! If you start earlier than normal so it won’t go to late into the night then people won’t duck out early.
Post # 11
If I were you I would look into other venues that will be available on a day you want and in your price range. I spent a lot of time researching venues for my wedding and I did not stop until I had both. I know you are probably excited about getting married, but do not rush into something that will dissapoint you. If you have a Sunday wedding you have to expect that your guests are going to have to leave early because odds are that they will have work the next day. Also, out of town guests may have to decline given the day of the week. Personally, I would rather wait another year to get married if that meant I could have it on a day I want it. Mine will be on a Saturday and my fiance and I plan to party with our guests until the wee hours of the night. But that’s just us.
You have to weigh your options and go with what makes you happy. If you go with the Sunday wedding, just make sure you give your guests plenty of notice so they can request the following Monday off of work if necessary. Take a few days to think about this and see how your fiance feels about it. I almost chose a venue that was so expensive we could only afford 50 guests max. because I liked the venue and I wanted to set a date so bad. I gave it a week and did my research. We decided on a nicer and way cheaper venue and now we get to have almost 100 guests and a very nice wedding. I am so happy I was patient or I would have regretted my decision forever.
Post # 12
Oh, I can so sympathize with the venue problem! If it’s your only option that you love, then I’d take it. And give people PLENTY of forewarning (for lack of a better word) about when it’ll be so they can make arrangements earlier.
Where I live, unless it’s in a church (no offense to church brides, but for me, it ain’t gonna happen) your options are not only limited, but EXPENSIVE!!!! (Of course, I DO live in an area where there is a church on practically EVERY CORNER. Talk about annoying…)
Maybe you could look around at places like that for a venue? Also, I called a wedding planner and since I was only wanting help with a venue, I wasn’t charged anything and had A LOT of options I wouldn’t have known of, otherwise. That might also help…
We lucked out because my FI’s family have been going to this venue (it rents cabins) for the past several years and have become good and well-liked clients. So we got to talk to the owner and was told that it’s only $2k for 130 guests and that his only thing is that MOST of the cabins would have to be rented by the guests.
Not a big deal, since that’s gonna be our request from our friends: no presents, just rent a cabin together! the same for his family that’ll be coming from out of town.
Post # 13
I have no problems with a Sunday wedding (since my wedding is going to be on a Sunday). If you don’t mind having a Sunday wedding, I’d say go for it. Save the money!
Post # 14
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a Sunday wedding. It sounds like you’re having an afternoon wedding to keep things a little bit earlier so I don’t see any issue at all. You can totally have a lovely ceremony and fun reception and still get people home in time for bed so they can go to work the next day.
Of course, I’m having a Sunday wedding myself. 😉
Post # 15
I think you should do the Sunday wedding (I may be biased b/c we are having one too). Most of our guests are within an hour or two also and honestly, even ones that are farther away that we expected to decline are coming. The people that really want to be there for you will come to your wedding whenever it is. They are not coming for dinner or dancing or to sit in a pretty room. All of those things are wonderful, but they’re coming to share a special day with you and see you get married, on whatever day you choose.
Post # 16
I don’t see anything wrong with a Sunday wedding. Some people find it rude, but I disagree. If they think a Sunday wedding is inconvenient for them, they don’t have to attend. I considered a Sunday wedding as a cost saving option, but the difference in price was only $500 so it wasn’t worth it to me since I’d always imagined a Saturday reception ending late into the evening. Well, that’s not happening since they end our event @ 10 p.m. NO exceptions! Have your wonderful even on Sunday…. it will be great!