(Closed) Really don't want to go through the process of asking her to step down…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think you should. Your BMs should not be making your wedding any more stressful than it is!! 

Post # 4
43 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

Do it! I’m doing that today with my FH’s second cousin who I reluctantly put in my bridal party, only because one of my friends is on FH’s groomsman side so we kept it fair by putting his closest cousin on my side. My Maid/Matron of Honor and other bridesmaid both have the dresses in their hands and have bought their shoes, and constantly text or call me about things they want to help with for the wedding. FH’s cousin, however, has not set foot in a David’s Bridal yet, when I have been begging her for 3 months, and she just got back from a trip to Myrtle Beach. Money is tight for her usually, but if she can go to the beach, plus she posted a status about how she hopes her tax return comes in.. so she can go shopping!!.. she should have already been able to order her dress.


I’m having FH call her and explain to her that we have enough on our plates without having to constantly hold her hand through the process. She’s 18, airheaded, and doesn’t really seem to understand the stress she’s putting on me and FH because she’s in her own LaLa Land.


No bridesmaid should make your wedding more difficult! They’re there to HELP you! Boot her..but nicely (:

Post # 5
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Have you talked to your Bridesmaid or Best Man about feeling distant from her and your worries that maybe she doesn’t want to be part of the wedding? I think a conversation like that should come first before asking her to step down.

Post # 7
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HeLovesDogs:  I’d have a hear to heart with her, and just ask.  also my bridesmaid dresses (and my own) aren’t even going to be here until 2 weeks before the ceremony. so I’d think there is still time to get it ordered for a June wedding.

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