Post # 1
So I just got my BFP yesterday (which thinking back was probably only 10dpo) and now I’m freaking out! I am super excited but also terrified of losing it :-/ Rationally, I don’t really have a reason to be worried (tested today and it was darker 🙂 ), but I think hanging out on here and reading about all of the MCs have me worried… I also feel like time is crawling by…
What did you do to pass the time early on? Read books (might freak me out more)? Tell close family? Buy baby stuff (I’ll admit I already bought some bumgenius diapers….)?
Post # 3
@lazybee123: I got a blood test to confirm and called my doc. It’s best to get things confirmed with your doctor and set up your prenatal appointments as early as you can. Also if you haven’t already, go ahead and get a prenatal vitamin and make sure you are taking it daily. Start to buy those healthy foods like fruits and veggies and lean meats for protiens and whole wheat snacks like cereal and bread.If you work out, go to the gym just kick down the intensity or try and take some daily walks. Now is the time to start getting you in a good rhythm to stay healthy.
Post # 4
Congratulations! ! I definitely had that exact same feeling the first few days past BFP. I agree with PP. Did you tell your SO yet? That is always fun and also reassuring. Then talking about it with him or a close family member or friend is reassuring as well. Good luck and welcome to the mamas to b boards
Post # 5
@lazybee123: Congrats on your BFP. I got my BFP @ 9DPO, I swear finding out early is a blessing and a curse. You know super early but in my case my doctor didn’t want to see me until 8 weeks. I ended up with 5 weeks of waiting around stressing over every cramp, tug, pull and twinge, plus i wanted to shout from the roof tops that i was pregnant! On the other hand I knew early on to religiously take my prenatals, drink lots of water, adjust my eating habits and listen to my body. We tried super hard to keep it to ourselves until we had our dating u/s at 8w6d but i did end up telling my mom at 6w4d and my bro & SIL at 6w6d. (I was flying across the country with my mom for my SIL baby shower & was having terrible morning sickness so it was just easier to tell my mom then to pretend to be sick all weekend. And then I figured it would be the only time in my pregnancy that i’d see my bro & SIL so I told them at breakfast before we flew home. I thought it was pretty cool that i was able to tell them in person and was okay with knowing that if something happened that i’d have to share the bad news with them as well.
Anywho, I’d say don’t share the news with anyone that you wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing bad news with incase something happens. Also make sure if you do decide to tell during your first tri that the people you tell don’t blab your big news =)
Post # 6
@lazybee123: Congrats momma! Let me tell you the feeling of sheer panic and fear is the first feeling of being a mother.
Right now all you can do is take care of yourself and try to be as healthy as possible. Your body and Mother Nature will do the rest. It is hard, very hard, to sit back and just wait for the time to pass. I have just entered into my second trimester and while it does offer some relief I am still pretty scared…all the time.
At this point I would suggest ready Mayo Clinic’s Guide to a Health Pregnancy. It is a really thorough book but doesn’t focus too much on the what if’s but rather the reality of pregnancy. Other than that stay away from the internet, Google will not be your friend right now!
Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
Congrats! What you’re feeling is as normal as can be! Nothing really helped me except talking things through with my husband and sister, who were both really good voices of reason, and reading pregnancy books, reputable ones…things that did NOT help me were googling miscarriage statistics and stories.
Schedule your doctor appointment for the first time they’ll see you. My doctor didn’t see me until 8 weeks, but what a great appointment and ultrasound that was!
Take care of yourself, make sure you’re taking great prenatals, exercising if you can, eating well if you can, sleeping a lot, and drinking lots of fluids. And join the October (?) boards on here if you can, those women were a godsend to me.
Post # 8
Second, I HATED the first 24 weeks. I was constantly worried about having a MC! And I had the lowest-risk pregnancy ever.
I’d call your OB about scheduling a confirmation appointment! They confirm with a pee test, take your medical history, and take a WHOLE lot of blood.
I also started reading every pregnancy-related book I could get my hands on, with one rule: I would only read about the trimester I was in. That way, no panic about stuff not coming for months.
Post # 9
Congrats!!! Read. Baths. Icecream. Bad tv!
Post # 11
I tried positive affirmations to help with my nervousness of reaching the 12 week mark. It definitely helped. I also limited my time on WB so I could avoid the MC posts as much as possible. I felt like in the beginning I became more nervous because of reading them. I also read pregnancy books and shopped for baby to keep a positive outlook!
Post # 12
Congratulations!! I know it is hard, but do try to avoid the MC threads. You’ll start analyzing every little symptom and have it throw you into worry when in reality you feel some weird stuff early on (like cramping, soreness of the abdomen/boobs). I even had some bleeding around 8, 10 and 12 weeks which turned out to most likely be implantation bleeding that just had never worked it’s way out of my system yet but of course I freaked at 8 and 10 weeks and got ultrasounds yet everything was fine. I’ve miscarried before, so I found it very hard to not worry. The time definitely crawled by and was made worse by feeling the need to be cooped up at home because my nausea made me not want to go out. Since it is still early definitely eat as healthy as possible and work out daily if you have time to get some good stuff in before you potentially get the super run down/sickness in the coming weeks. If you feel a cramp, don’t google “cramping at 7 weeks pregnant” because you’ll find loads of “it is normal” and loads of “this happened to me right before I miscarried”. The truth is that it is normal, but unless you force yourself to stay away from asking questions to someone besides your doctor you’ll potentially set yourself up for an even worse first trimester. Even though I still look at the toilet paper every time I go to the bathroom to make sure I’m not bleeding, I promise that the worry will decrease and time will start to speed up! I figured I’d be a wreck the entire pregnancy, but time is really starting to go by quickly now that I’m about 16 weeks, people know about the pregnancy, and I’m starting to feel not like a zombie 🙂 Good luck to you and just remember that even though by coming online it may look like things can be going wrong constantly, more often than not your little peanut is just fine!
Post # 13
Agreed, avoid any and all MC, loss, and trigger type posts. Your only job right now is to relax and let your body do it’s thing.
Call your doctor and set up your first appointment. Some will bring you in for a blood test, but most will wait til 8 weeks or so. Your doctor will tell you what you need to do!
Post # 14
@mrsbreakingbad: As long as you avoid HOT baths– they are dangerous when pregnant. Very early on, if your temperature is elevated, you are more likley to develop a fetus with an abnormality.
Post # 15
@OldMrsMcDonald: what about hot showers? I just got my BFP this weekend and hopped in the shower last night to a steaming hot shower, then immediately turned it down when I remembered hearing no hot tubs or baths. Do showers count?
Post # 16
@The_Future_KB: No. Submerging your entire body for an extended period of time is different than a shower! You’re good.