- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I need to start with the background story. My in-laws let one of my SIL’s friends move in with them for a couple months while she was in between apartments. After a couple months, the tension in the house was so high that this friend moved out. There’s a lot of he said/she said with the whole situation, and 2 completely different sides of the story. About a month after that, I started working with this friend, and we’ve become pretty good friends.
Fast forward to now. Obviously, this friend knows when our wedding is, most of the plans, all that. I told her she was more than welcome to come and celebrate with us. She went to my bachelorette party and my mom got to know her and also said she was more than welcome to come. (mom’s paying for the whole thing) Well, when I got home, FI asked if this friend was coming to the wedding and I said if she can. He then proceded to tell me that if she shows up, his parents will leave because her presence is so repulsing. I understand their anger, but it’s one day, and it’s about us, not them. If they’re going to get upset over 1 person out of 200.. idk. I told FI that his parents need to grow some balls and put all feelings aside for one day. It’s going to be pretty easy to avoid her. Now, he’s saying that I need to ask her to not come for him because if his parents leave, he will have no one there. (None of his family is coming except his parents and sister)
So now, part of me just wants to tell this friend, hey, i’m sorry but to keep the peace, would you mind just not coming. However, I would think if I was this friend and I knew how the in-laws treated me, I would be so pissed. On the other hand, I want to tell my MIL that it’s not about her and if she wants to be so immature that she’s going to let a 23 year old ruin her night, so be it. But I don’t want that drama either.
What would you do??? HELP!!