Really need advice on how to handle this.. long, sorry

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7195 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lambjo:  FI needs to read the riot act to his parents. That if they walk out on his wedding there will be severe consequences in the future. (In terms of how much he sees them etc).

I never understand how divorced parents can tolerate each other on their children’s wedding day, yet other people flip out over minor differences. My mother lived with my father for 20+ years and then was betrayed by him. Yet she has tolerated his (and his new wife’s) presence at each of her children’s weddings since the divorce. If she can get over 20+ years, I’m sure your in-laws can get over a couple of months.

Post # 4
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lambjo:  You won’t be able to make everyone happy at your wedding. She is your friend and you should be able to invite whoever you want. If his parents cannot respect that, then it is their loss for missing out on going to your wedding. You should let them know in advance if she might be going so they can prepare their emotions not to ruin your wedding day. Before I got married, I realized a lot of people were very selfish and they only cared about themselves on our wedding day.

Post # 5
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She is a somewhat new friend – they are the family you are marrying into (hopefully) for the rest of your life. I would keep the peace with the family, they are more important than your new friend at work – and I find it strange she would even want to attend a wedding where the other family involved she had major past drama with. 

Unless she’s a drama queen I would think she would totally understand the problem her presence would pose. If she’s a drama queen she’s going to cause problems no matter what, and you don’t need that.

 

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