I am so sorry you’re battling with your ex- he sounds like a giant d bag to say the least. And your parents…seriously?
Anyway- had to vent after reading your situation. Have you tried signing up with temporary agencies/firms in your area? Do a GOOGLE search with things like “temporary staffing, temporary agencies” with your zip code. If you haven’t worked in a while, I would send with your resume, a short summary of your skill sets and a professional explanation for your gap of employment. Keep it positive.
I’m a recruiter so here are some tips to help you to get a job and things that I see people do that immediately make me cringe.
- Take the time to do a succinct and well through out resume
- Bullet points of accomplishments – no paragraphs
- Chronological order of jobs with dates
- Only go back 10 years of your experience
- No crazy fonts or colors
- Change your VM to something professional for whatever number is tied to your resume (I can’t STAND when people have a dumb VM when you’re applying for jobs…hello do you really want your 1<sup>st</sup> impression to be that? Let your personality and skill sets do the talking J)
- Answer the phone professionally…I know most of you know this but seriously, it’s pretty bad when I get “why are you calling me?!”
- Recruiters have databases with notes and codes for candidates
- For example: If you don’t show up or call for my interview it’s an automatic NSNC and DNU- do not use. Yikes- that’s a forever kind of thing and now you’re black balled.
- It’s going to be exhausting working with a recruiter- lots of interviews and time.
- Recruiters are not your personal head hunter- they work for their clients who pay the fees for me to search for them
- Trust what we have to say b/c we are the only link to that company and the hiring manager
- Be honest with your recruiter and have open communication
- If you find another job, give 2 weeks notice, even it’s a temporary assignment
- If you’re on fire, throwing up or contagious- call out and get in touch with someone who can let the client know! Otherwise, get your ass to work.
- When you’ve submitted your resume to a position that you’re qualified for- just wait about a week before checking in with them.
- If you don’t get a call back, politely call the main line and ask to speak to a recruiter.
- “Hello, I’ve put in an application and I was wondering if there was any way to speak with one of your recruiters to find out more about your procedures and potential employment opportunities that aren’t listed on your site.”
- You’re going to be screwed over at some point by the agency- late checks, cancelled job orders, etc.
- If you have a good recruiter, she will be honest about what’s going on but you have to keep cool and push through.
- I always have my go-to candidates that worked for me, references done and always got rave reviews from clients (position yourself to be that person)
One last thing- I don’t know what it’s like to be in your situation, but I’ve experienced a lot of hardship with my candidates and see the hurt it causes people. BUT you have to remain positive in interviews or any professional interaction. I’ve interviewed hundreds of people who are very qualified on paper and in person (jackpot!) but are so disgruntled or sad about their home life, it dominates the interview. Thus causing me to be extremely hesitant to place you in front of a client. Unfortunately clients don’t generally give 2 shits about what’s going on- they’re spending big bucks to get a qualified person into their opening.
Just kidding- one more thing: research, research and do more research on the companies you contact or that contact you. If they ask for any sort of fee or pull money from your checks, RUN RUN RUN. Established staffing firms have contracts with clients that bill internally.
Sorry about the book, but things keep popping into my head. Most staffing firms have healthcare options and 401ks and such after you’ve established some working time with the firm.
There are 3 types of work- contract (specified amount of time), contract-to-hire/perm (a set amount of time you’re under the microscope- basically. If BOTH parties feel it’s a good fit- permanent employment with that client!) and Perm/direct hire (hired as a full-time employee).
I would be open to all 3 types. Remember, you’re building trust with you’re recruiter, the clients and the people maintaining the client accounts. You’re also trying to build up your resume with recent and relevant skill sets.
I’m pretty awesome at my job and I genuinely care about the successes of my candidates, but be warned that not all recruiters are like this so listen and follow through with your intuition.
I hope this helps you move forward. Please PM if you need more help J