- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I love her and she is a kind person. But she is REALLY making me angry.
Long story short- I am doing most of the legwork for the wedding, about 90% of it. Fiance helps, and my friends help but I’ve been more than happy to go at my own (quick, efficient) pace and do my own thing to get everything done.
I ask for VERY little from my Future Mother-In-Law: 1) To get her guest list count on time for us to order invitations and 2) To write them out on a word document so I get get the labels ready for the envelopes.
It was like PULLING TEETH to get the guest list count on time, and now all my invites are done and she still hasnt gotten the labels ready. I told Fiance that I won’t be late with my invites, and they can just send theirs out late. Fiance was fine with that.
Future Father-In-Law travels a lot for work so he hasn’t been able to be much help. I have Future Mother-In-Law 6 WEEKS NOTICE to get this done. MORE than enough time! Fiance has voiced our frustrations to her plenty of times but it hasn’t worked. She gets defensive and makes excuses. He promised me that we’d have a talk with her before I leave for the States in December.When Fiance complains to her, she starts talking about how much work she has to do and how tired she is. Please. I work and have been getting a TON done for the wedding and I’m exhausted too.
I was very anxious about getting RSVPS and the seating chart done 1 week before the wedding as I originally intended because Future Mother-In-Law is late with everything.In fact, when I spoke to her about it a few days ago, she was looking at me with this patronizing smile as if to say “Oh, Evie, you are so neurotic..things don’t need to be done this early…”
I have a gazillion out of town guests coming in the week of the wedding and a ton of other things to do as we all know!
Fiance works such long hours and I don’t want to put that burden on him- and also there are many family members he just doesn’t know, nor their numbers so he’d have to depend on his mom anyway…
I spoke with my Future Sister-In-Law and she promised to help me get everything done on time, for their side of the family. She has been so supportive. She told me she remembers what a nightmare the seating and rsvp chasing can be, and she will help me get it done 1 week before the wedding.
I’m finding it really hard to let this roll off my back. Im really frustrated. Even though my Future Sister-In-Law who is AMAZING promised to help me …I’m so angry at FMIL’s dismissive and insensitive attitude.
Even if she is more of a last minute type of person, I feel she should be more sensitive of the fact that I’m doing all of the work and im asking for very little- so that little should be done on time to help me out.
I feel a little better already…i really needed to get that off my chest!