REALLY need to vent about MIL

posted 1 year ago in Family
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Helper bee

Sounds rough. Especially that comment about your breasts, insanely rude!! Try not to let her get to you, she’s probably jealous because you’re now the most important woman in her son’s life (seems to be the case fairly often). If it cheers you up any, she won’t be around forever…depending on her age, might not be long ;)

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Bumble bee

@SweetartMD:  Maybe she’s just jealous of your boobs. I mean, seriously, who talks about their In-Laws anatomy like that?!

Vent all you want on here. It doesn’t sound like your man’s mom is a real winner, but she’s still his mom. Do your best to be the better person in the relationship for his sake. And if he winds up not wanting contact with her anymore then support his decision (and do your little dance of joy in private).

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Bumble bee

God bless you for not slapping her…hahaha I agree with the prior posting she sounds like she is jealous that she is losing her son to you. She may not have been a good mother and has some guilt because she see that you are the opposite of her and her son was smart enough to find someone that is.

Unfortunately, you will have to deal with her on some level just limit the contact and interaction when possible. Dont tell her any of your plans for the future or what you would like to do, etc. She seems like a petty woman who is trying to cause problems.

BIG HUG

 

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Bumble bee

Oh man, she sounds like a lovely little peach. My MIL is kind of the same way. I have to bite my tongue around her sometimes because I really want to just slap her. I’ve been mean to her on ocasion and felt bad, but DAMN did it feel good!

Jealousy must be a HUGE issue with moms when their boys leave. I don’t have any brothers so my mom was never weird or anything, but I know my MIL is not the only one who is so mean. My good friends MIL pretends that her and her son arent even married and that my friend does’t even exist, which is so weird, but whatever.

The whole bit about the birthday gift regifted as your present is AWFUL. I would just get her a single, solitary balloon next time. If she cant appreciate it when people do nice things for her, then she doesnt deserve anything. A balloon is a nice slap in the face. You can’t regift a balloon months later!

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Bumble bee

@SweetartMD:  You’re right, I don’t want to hate mine. I don’t HATE her, but she isn’t my BFF, not by a longshot. But look on the bright side, she may be a bitch but at least she aknowledges your existence. The whole comment on your boobs kind weirds me out though.

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Bumble bee

Egads. I think we share a mother in law.

 

(hugs)

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Honey bee

I saw the hope chest in another post, and it was beautiful. So at least there is a shred of a good person somewhere in there. Hold onto that as long as you can!

It mostly sounds like she has no filter. Whatever she thinks comes right out of her mouth and most of it is awful! My FMIL can be like this too, I have learned not to share anything important with her, only things I don’t really care about LOL.

I think the best strategy is just to limit your contact with her. Don’t share personal details, stories, aspirations, etc and she won’t have the opportunity to belittle them or use them against you. Block her on facebook. You can say you had to limit what you are posting due to work finding your FB or something. 

 

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Blushing bee

Ugh, I’m sorry. My FMIL always buys things that I have been wanting / saving for whenever she finds out. It really gets on my nerves too.

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Bumble bee

@SweetartMD:  You are more than welcome I totally sympathize with you. I have a aunt who always points and thinks her daughter is so much better than I am, but she fails to see that although she went to one of best colleges (Howard) she is not a good mother. I have a college degree but as far as she is concerned it is not as good as her daughter’s.

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