Really need your help!!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

how about giving him a towel that he can put in a bucket on his side of the bed and he can wipe it on and clean his hands at the same time? Or a tissue paper?

Post # 4
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@newbee83:  could you put a box of tissues on his side of the bed? Or maybe try letting him know the sex is going to be seriously affected by his ‘ habit’?

Post # 7
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is absolutely vile and disgusting.  I really don’t see how him being a grown man, and the woman he wants to marry him refusing sex shouldn’t be reason enough to stop! I really don’t think this should be your issue to “fix”, but what about cloth handkerchiefs? They’re the same consistency as sheets…..

Post # 8
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That is absolutely vile and disgusting.  I really don’t see how him being a grown man, and the woman he wants to marry him refusing sex shouldn’t be reason enough to stop! I really don’t think this should be your issue to “fix”, but what about cloth handkerchiefs? They’re the same consistency as sheets…..

Post # 10
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460 posts
Helper bee

If he’s doing this in his sleep, perhaps a psychologist or hypnosis can help. Unfortunately, men digging in their noses is nothing new (like their fascination with their junk scratching marathons) … some just do it in private (heck we all have to at some point). My s/o does it right in front of me but he doesn’t wipe it on anything “inappropriate”; he keeps a tissue box by his recliner. He’s also not shy about scratching his nuts in front of me (and I mean hands down the pants, practically ‘on vacation’ scratch fest; not just a pinch or ‘adjustment’). Of course, he doesn’t do this stuff when we’re out in public, at our parents’ houses, etc.

I’m really perplexed how your FI isn’t put off by the no-sex threats, sleeping in a different bed, etc; however, I will also say that it doesn’t strike me as the most mature response to his behavior (e.g., the whole ‘two wrongs don’t make a right” thing). It really might be worth talking to a counselor about this, because if you are an OCD/clean freak type person, and he is not, and you’re threatening to withhold things from him and you’re not even married, this all could spell trouble down the road in your mutual understanding, respect and communication. Just a thought.

Good luck!

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