Post # 1
I would say i’m a very friendly and pretty social person
Not for the whole marrying part-sooo happy with my fiance 🙂 and future hubby
but with the wedding, 200 eyes on us, having to talk to all these guests, doing two formal dances (one with father one with my future hubby) wondering how to dance in my huge skirt, worrying about my shoes, everything! im just nervous!! i am going to try to enjoy everything but im really really nervous 🙁
Post # 3
I think that’s totally normal! Better to be nervous now, then hopefully on the day you’ll be fine! Just remember that everyone there loves you, wants the best for you and won’t mind if you can’t really dance in your dress! If your super nervous about dancing in your dress, maybe put it on and give it a test run with your mom or a bridesmaid! And for the talking to everyone part, just say “thanks so much for coming, it means so much that you’re here!” Then move on lol. That’s the only way you’ll get to chat with everyone and no one will be offended!
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Post # 4
@lovemyrussianpooza: So was I! What they never tell you is that you are so not a part of your wedding and it is so not about you. You are kept caged up in your limo watching your friends and family pile in the church. Then you have to wait outside and miss the flower girl and ring bearer stumble down the aisle. By the time you finally get to see how the layout of the church/ceremony is and all of your friends and family, you totally don’t have time to worry about all of the eyes on you. If you look at the picture attached, my photographer totally captured that I was so excited to see everyone and everything that I totally did not focus on my groom.
As far as the dancing part, again, you just roll with the awkward. Did we look good. Totally not. I looked good with my dad, but DH never got out of the 7th grade swaddle. Did I care, not one bit! Trust me and roll with the punches It will be great.
Post # 5
honestly, I was soooo worried about my wedding. to the point where I was nauseous and considered calling the celebration off, to get married at the courthouse instead. I am very much an introvert, and the idea of all of those people focusing on me made me sick.
but the day flew by, and I had an AMAZING time. your energy will be up, and you will be so happy, that I promise you absolutely will forget about how you were nervous. I don’t even remember walking down the aisle, yet there are pictures with everyone looking at me!
as for the dancing – i picked up my dress skirt and went with it. By the end of the day, my dress was DIRTY, but I had a fabulous time. Hands down the best day of my life, and up until about 3h before the day, I was (almost) dreading it was I so nervous. You will have a great time!!
Post # 6
thanks ladies that makes me feel better 😉
Post # 7
Totally normal! Actually it was until a few days before the wedding that I had time to start thinking about stuff like this and I felt the same way! I worried I wouldn’t look good enough and people wouldn’t have fun because weddings with ugly brides are not fun (obvioulsy psycho bride brain) and that it would be boring, stuff like this. Everything turned out great and honestly, all those eyes start to blur into only a few once you are going through the day. I actuallly tell everyone I know who is getting married to take a second, look around and cherish the moment. It goes SO fast! Once you get up to the “alter” or meet your husband in front of your officiant, take a second to look out and smile at your guests, I wish I had done it a little more!
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2015 - Bethesda Academy Whitefield Chapel & Brockington Hall
@lovemyrussianpooza: 🙂 Take a few deep cleansing breaths. The most important part of the wedding – your relationship with your new husband – is solid! My sister in law FELL DOWN during her dance with my brother at their wedding. But, he caught her and made it into a dramatic little dip, most people thought it was planned! Rely on your FI for support when you need and if something is really giving you big butterflies – practice it a few times! Wear those shoes and dance your dance a few times. Look at yourself in the mirror, tell yourself that eveything will be great and lavish these moments. The day will go by in a blink of an eye. Enjoy it! Good luck and congratulations!!!!
Post # 9
I still have a couple of months to go before the big day and I am already feeling that way! We were planning to have our ceremony/reception at the ahwahnee in yosemite because I love the outdoors but now we’re considering going somewhere closer like in SF Cavallo Point because I am soo worried people will drive all that way and find bad weather, or don’t enjoy their stay, or get bored at the reception. I’m not good at small talk. I have made big decisions in my career, buying houses and cars, but this one is much harder than I had anticipated. I guess it involves 60 people and I feel like I have to think about everyone and not just me. Plus my sister-in-law will be due with her baby early Nov and I found out she won’t make it and my brother will have to attend alone. Feeling so much pressure no wonder fiance kept saying he wanted to elope, lol… but it’s not the same to me if we get married without friends and family around us. Funny they are both the source of my love/support and also the source of my worries/stress. I guess i’m doing more agreeing than helping here, but I see that you’ve had your wedding a few days ago and I’m sure everything went great and you were amazing 🙂
Post # 10