Post # 1
it sounds strange, but i’m really worried about saying our vows in front of everyone! the more i think about it, the more i want it to be a private thing.
i get shy talking in front of groups of people, and i know it’s not like giving a presentation (!) but it’s freaking me out a little!
anyone else get really anxious about this?
Post # 3
I feel ya on this! And what makes it worse is I am firmly against Crying like a ball baby in front of anyone but I know I’m going to!
Post # 4
I was nervous too! I just looked into his eyes and pretended there was nobody else around. As soon as I saw him at the end of the aisle, I wasn’t nervous anymore. Just breathe, focus on your SO, and remember to have fun!
Post # 5
I’m very nervous about this! I get sooo shy and nervous in front of people. I feel like I am going to trip walking down the aisle and stutter and shake like crazy when I am up there. Which is why I am trying to make our ceremony as quick as possible!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I just the other day realized I’d be reading our personal vows aloud, trying not to think about it… plus I’m super self conscious of how I read (has to be PERFECT!) so I feel like I’m going to screw up.
But my parents screwed up during their ceremony and it’s my favorite story of their wedding and my parents favorite memory looking back 🙂 Just relax.
Post # 7
Normally I really dislike being “on display” but I was totally in a bubble and not remotely aware of anyone else. We might as well have been alone because that’s what it felt like to me. So try not to worry!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I was so, so nervous about this too. But honestly, during our cermony I had eyes only for him. It seriously felt like we were the only two people in the room. 🙂
Post # 9
@springwed8: I feel the same way! I am generally not a very “touchy-feely” person. I’m usually the one cracking jokes and having a laugh, so to express the heartfelt vows to my FH in front of my family and friends is definitely daunting and makes me very nervous.
I know that isn’t the same as feeling shy, but the way I plan to deal with the issue is to literally just pretend that no one else is there during the vows, and say them as if I were alone with my FI. I’m sure that’s easier said than done… perhaps some married bees have suggestions that worked for them?
Post # 10
@Mrs. Coyote: & @Eglantine: oh, i so hope this is true!
Post # 11
I feel the SAME way. I hate hate hate being the center of attention, all eyes on me. In theory I love a traditional wedding ceremony, but part of me wishes we could do the ceremony in private, then just have a big party/reception for everyone.
I’m not writing my own vows, that would just be too much pressure. Instead of trying to say something personal to my FI I would be nervous that everyone was analyzing and judging what I had written. They wouldn’t really, but that’s what would be in my head.
Post # 12
@Kit_Kath: that’s EXACTLY how i feel, about having the ceremony private and then having everyone there afterwards…maybe even waiting in the next room. hmmm, not possible and slightly weird perhaps!?
i think i’ll have to have a glass (or 3) of champagne before, to take the edge off!
Post # 13
FI is really nervous about being in front of everyone–he declined doing a speech and won’t write his own vows. I did theatre in high school, but I really, really don’t want to cry in front of 100 people–I’m an ugly crier.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
The rehearsal is key to helping make you feel comfortable. Plus, most of it will be repeat after me stuff, so that reduces pressure as well.
Post # 15
@springwed8: “…maybe even waiting in the next room” I actually had a crazy dream that we had a camera set up in the ceremony room where we were alone, and all the guests were in the next room over watching the video feed on a big screen. Then I woke up and thought how silly that would be. I have to remember that dream when I start worrying because it reminds me that I’m being silly, that I’m thinking about this way too much.
Post # 16
@springwed8: I feel this way too! It’s so personal. :/