Post # 1
Our RSVP deadline was 5/27. Soon after, FI and I began calling and emailing like crazy trying to get answers from all the people who didn’t respond.
One of them was a guy who FI has worked for, works where I work now, and is good friends with many of FI’s family members.
He had told FI in passing a couple of times he didn’t think they’d be able to make it.
Cool. So when he ignored all of our emails trying to confirm this, we assumed he wasn’t coming.
We did our seating chart last night, leaving spots for the couple of people we aren’t sure of that won’t know until just a couple of days before the wedding – FIs grandparents, an uncle that’s ill, that sort of thing. We had room for those people.
Of course, today FI checks the mailbox and there’s an RSVP card from this guy. Who is attending. WITH HIS WIFE AND ALL 3 OF HIS KIDS!
Our deadline was almost 2 weeks ago, and the wedding is in 17 days. 5 people is a LOT to add in for seating, ugh. Yes, they were all invited, but STILL. So annoying.
And of course, it throws off all the nice little natural groupings we had. So now I’m reworking the seating for the millionth time trying not to add a table in because then I’ll have to drive 3 hours to IKEA to get more vases and add the flowers for it, and avoid really really weird tables that mixes people like my cousins with his work friends.
Post # 3
I feel your pain. I was reworking tables up until the last minute. It drove me insane. Hang in there, at least he RSVP’d now and not any later!!! Sheesh!
Post # 5
We got an RSVP back last month. Our wedding was last year in August.
Post # 6
UGGGGHHH! so annoying. some people seriously just dont think and they clearly have never had a wedding! so sorry! breath! LOL i had a similar thing happen…I kept asking her if she was coming and she kept saying that she was def coming but not her DH or kids. well guess who showed? The whole family showed (5 people…3 kids!) and I had a small 60 ppl wedding!!! I freaked but it worked out just fine…
congrats…its almost your wedding day!
Post # 7
stick him at a table with no one else and no decorations, lol. Maybe he’ll get the passive agressive message.
Post # 9
@JoJo Bananas: LOL Seriously?? what are people thinking?
@thewheelsonthebus: Super annoying! I am not looking forward to this part. We have about half our RSVPs back and 2 weeks and 3 days to go before our deadline. I’m praying to the RSVP gods everyday I check my mail that we have a lot of them in there. Ha ha!
Post # 10
I am VERY thankful that I made ‘modular’ escort cards… I already have them all printed with the names and ‘Table’ and have a matching punch to glue on with the numbers, and I didn’t plan on doing that until next week anyway.
What’s super duper extra annoying about it is the guy works here, where our wedding is – the hotel I sell weddings at for a living. So he KNOWS info for them goes out 2 weeks before the date – since his department gets a copy of it all. So seriously… wtf?!
I think I’ve got it now, but I seriously just spent 3 hours working on it (!).
Post # 11
Well… I suppose I shouldn’t have been so annoyed about that. Since we just got another yes in the mail.
2 adults to add to the count, 15 days out.
Post # 12
@JoJo Bananas: Pffffffffffftttttttttttttt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously????? O_O
Post # 13
I know how you feel – 8 days out from the wedding and someone just cancelled which seriously messes up our seating chart and then someone else asked if they could bring a friend. I can’t handle this!!!!
Post # 14
People who haven’t been through a wedding or did it a long time ago or didn’t have the type of wedding that requires seating arrangements, pre-event person count, etc. don’t know how to be a good guest.
I heard one girl b*tching to someone about how yeah she’s only been dating her boyfriend for 2 weeks but how come she can’t bring him along and so and so can bring her fiance? Uh, because the engaged people don’t want to take your 2 week boyfriend out for an expensive meal because they don’t know him and he may not be around for long. Seriously, people think that it’s their God given right to get their way at other people’s weddings (RSVP late, say they’re not coming a day or two before–or on the day of–, bring people they didn’t RSVP for, not bring people they DID RSVP for, etc.) It’s supposed to be about the couple and all they ever think about is their guests. Have they never socialized with people they don’t know?
You didn’t have to accomodate this guy and his family, it was REALLY nice of you to do so. I hope they do show up and contribute some joy to your wedding.
Post # 15
Seriously stoked that we did free seating after reading this thread!
Post # 16
Yeah, I got an RSVP this morning.. the wedding is in two days. I don’t understand people.