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I was surprised when two of my cousins who are not in the wedding mentioned that they would be wearing our wedding colors. Come to think of it, about 15 years ago at another family wedding, lots of folks who were not in the wedding party wore the wedding colors also, but the colors were just black and white so I thought that to be somewhat coincidental... But now that you mention it.... Eh, I wouldn't worry if she wants to wear your wedding colors, but personally, I think wearing cream or white to a wedding is kind of catty & tasteless (unless you're the bride).
i would go ahead and speak up nicely and say that usually only the bride wears white (treat it as if you are giving her a helpful hint, because even though she should know, she clearly doesn't.
That's weird because I've only heard the opposite. If I know what the wedding colors are, I'll try to avoid them. And I have no idea what your friend was thinking when her backup colors were cream or white.
Tell her to wear black. I love wearing black to weddings because you just blend into the background and the wedding party in their colors will stand out.
@bmore: That is what I had always thought too. If you know the wedding colors, you try NOT to wear them, so that other guests don't assume you are a member of the wedding party.
The only people I know of who wear the wedding colors, at least where I'm from, is the wedding party (duh), the mom's wear one of the colors usually and the grandma---usually. That's it. I wonder if some people think they should wear one of the wedding colors or something since there are wedding colors. Know what I mean? I'd tell your friend to wear any color, but really, cream/white is left to the bride.
@bmore and @Neva: I do the same thing! I don't want to look like I am trying to be a part of the wedding party.
It was just so funny to me. I'm still not sure if she was serious about the cream/white comment so I just played it off like she was joking and told her it was a huge wedding no-no and laughed.
People crack me up.
A friend of FI's asked what colour our bridesmaids were wearing so that he and his GF wouldn't clash with them (but also would avoid wearing the colour so they wouldn't match either). I thought that was pretty cute. As a guest at a wedding though, the thought would never occur to me!!! I just saw on tv this morning that if you wear the same colour as the bridesmaids it makes you more approachable and you'll meet more people at a wedding. Probably because people might think you're a bridesmaid... LOL
@ Ms. Meowerson: hahaha I should tell her to just wear red or purple (our colors are grey and yellow)
How strange! I have NEVER heard of that before. And as for her wearing white as a back up WHAT?!
It drives me nuts when I see a female guest wearing white to a wedding. I thought it was just me though. lol. But I would just flat out ask her to avoid cream or white, and then do what Ms Meowerson suggested and pick some random color for her!
She's obviously clueless and thinks she knows more than she does. If she mentions it again, reiterate that the only people who intentially wear wedding colors are the wedding party and only the bride wears white. Otherwise, don't worry about it...she'll be the one looking like an idiot.
hahaha Neva, those are beautiful!! I never knew you could wear that many shades of orange at one time. Those poor girls
As a guest I would want to avoid the wedding colors! At my SIL's wedding her friend had a forest green dress that matched us as the bridesmaids. I was wondering if she was an honorary bridesmaid or wore it out of spite that she wasnt a bridesmaid! I want to wear an old bridesmaid dress to a wedding I am going to in August that is burnt orange. But the wedding colors are burnt orange and blue...so I dont know if I should! The bride told me the girls are wearing blue so it wont be as bad but even then I feel kinda weird about it.
I personally have never dressed to match the wedding colors, but my whole life I have heard how this is the thing to do, so it's not a foreign concept to me. I don' tknow if it's a Texas (where i'm originally from) thing or southern thing, but my mom grew up with the idea of that's what you were supposed to do.
My SIL asked me if I wanted her to dress to match our colors. I really didn't know how to respond and it was a little awkward. So, I just told her what our colors were and she could wear what she wanted.
I do know people who try to match the wedding colors with their dress - although, typically it's an accent and not the entire outfit (ie: to look like BM's). It sounds like she's just trying to be part of the day and dress appropriately. I would tell her not to wear the colors she thought were appropriate (since those will make her stick out!)
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My mom and I were talking about a wedding she attended and she said that some of the guests made it a point to match their clothes to the wedding. I didn't realize this happened and chalked it up to being an older generational thing.
Apparently not. A "friend" who is in her mid-twenties that is invited to the wedding (note she asked if she was invited after we got engaged, made sure I knew she was serious, threatened that she would be mad if she wasn't invited, and then assumed she could bring a date even though she hasn't dated anyone seriously since I've known her and her invite made no indication of "& guest") asked me what she should wear to the wedding and what our colors were. ...really?
This being a mere 3 days after my mom and I talked about it. She said she didn't want to stick out being the only person in a non-matching color. I told her that she could wear whatever she wanted and the only people that will match are those in the wedding party and not to worry about it.
Her response was that she would just wear cream or white.....ugh
I can't help but to laugh.
Is the matching thing normal and am I out of the loop??