(Closed) Really really considering eloping…. Family driving me crazy

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That’s annoying. I’m assuming they are covering the cost of it all, if they are taking the liberty of changing everything. If you elope they might get pissed off and cancel your reception and make your life hell even more. Can you live with that? 

Post # 4
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4047 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you just take a week or two off of wedding planning, wedding websites, etc and try to sort out how you really feel? I’m gussing your family is paying which is why they have so much say, any chance you can pay yourself?

Post # 7
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would elope if my guy didn’t want a wedding so bad.

Wedding planning shouldn’t be so stressful and upsetting.

Post # 8
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh, I feel for you. You still have plenty of time; you don’t have to hate everything about your wedding. Tell us more. Why are they doing all the planning? (I assume you have but) have you talked to them about how you feel? What were their responses?

Post # 9
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Torrid:  My husband was the one that wanted a big wedding too… and now that it’s all over, he half wishes we would have eloped. That’s what I tried to tell him! haha

Post # 11
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This would bug me to no end. I would cancel and elope and if they feel like giving you a party later, then fine, but if not, no harm no foul and at least you did what you wanted to do and didnt need to accept any largesse from them. But that’s just me. It gets thorny with other people’s money. All kinds of control issues come up.  As long as they’re footing the bills, they’re paying the cost to be the boss. 

Personally I am eloping in April and am happy with this choice. When we were trying to plan a regular wedding, the stress drove me bonkers. 

Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

 

 

 

Post # 12
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1096 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t imagine what you’re going through and I’m so sorry. If your family is stressing you and your FI that bad and you want to elope, I can’t blame you. It’s so sad that a family insists on having the wedding THEY want without any regard to the bride and groom.

I’m a mother to a son whos been married 4 years. They decided to get married at the courthouse but if they had a wedding with all the trimmings I’d be supportive of any decision they made. After all, it’s their wedding, not mine. I’m just a guest!!!

Post # 13
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you don’t want the wedding their way then tell them that. If you put your foot down and refuse their money you get to refuse their opinions too.

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