(Closed) really? really???

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was surprised when two of my cousins who are not in the wedding mentioned that they would be wearing our wedding colors. Come to think of it, about 15 years ago at another family wedding, lots of folks who were not in the wedding party wore the wedding colors also, but the colors were just black and white so I thought that to be somewhat coincidental… But now that you mention it….  Eh, I wouldn’t worry if she wants to wear your wedding colors, but personally, I think wearing cream or white to a wedding is kind of catty & tasteless (unless you’re the bride).

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would go ahead and speak up nicely and say that usually only the bride wears white (treat it as if you are giving her a helpful hint, because even though she should know, she clearly doesn’t.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

or just tell her to wear some random color lol

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That’s weird because I’ve only heard the opposite. If I know what the wedding colors are, I’ll try to avoid them. And I have no idea what your friend was thinking when her backup colors were cream or white.

Post # 7
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5904 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

or just tell her to wear some random color lol

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Tell her to wear black.  I love wearing black to weddings because you just blend into the background and the wedding party in their colors will stand out.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@bmore:  That is what I had always thought too.  If you know the wedding colors, you try NOT to wear them, so that other guests don’t assume  you are a member of the wedding party.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

The only people I know of who wear the wedding colors, at least where I’m from, is the wedding party (duh), the mom’s wear one of the colors usually and the grandma—usually.  That’s it.  I wonder if some people think they should wear one of the wedding colors or something since there are wedding colors.  Know what I mean?  I’d tell your friend to wear any color, but really, cream/white is left to the bride.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

A friend of FI’s asked what colour our bridesmaids were wearing so that he and his GF wouldn’t clash with them (but also would avoid wearing the colour so they wouldn’t match either). I thought that was pretty cute. As a guest at a wedding though, the thought would never occur to me!!! I just saw on tv this morning that if you wear the same colour as the bridesmaids it makes you more approachable and you’ll meet more people at a wedding. Probably because people might think you’re a bridesmaid… LOL

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If she really annoys you, just tell her your bridesmaids are wearing these:

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

How strange! I have NEVER heard of that before. And as for her wearing white as a back up WHAT?!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It drives me nuts when I see a female guest wearing white to a wedding.  I thought it was just me though. lol.  But I would just flat out ask her to avoid cream or white, and then do what Ms Meowerson suggested and pick some random color for her!

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