- 5 years ago
I am a new bee but i have been here couple of times. I liked this website because I was planning my own wedding. I was very happy back then. But now everything changed, I just thought maybe I should write it out here so some nice bees can give me some advise.
My boyfriend is a very good man, he is smart, cute and nice to everyone. We have been happily together for 5 years. We always think we are the perfect one for each other. We laugh together, we go out with friends together, we travel together. Sometimes life gets a bit boring when everyday he has to go to work and come back for dinner.
I have been hoping to get engaged for a long time, but he always seemed not uneasy with that topic. Until 2012, he changed and he seemed more relaxed with getting married. We even talked about how wwe want our wedding, how our kids will look, who will be our best man and bridesmaid. I was so happy that I knew he was gonna propose on Christmas Eve.
However, 2 days before 24th, he suddenly became very upset with everything, and he didn’t wanna tell me why. I asked him many times. At the end, he toldme that he had the ring in his hand, but he didn’t buy the ring, he suddenly didn’t know if he still loves me. That was the worst day ever, I have never thought a happy christmas can be like this. I didn’t know how i should react to this.
But I dn’t believe it, he said he doesn’t believe it either. But he doesn’t feel the passion now. After 5 years living together, he feels our life is getting boring. I think we have been wonderful together, but you can’t still feel excited just like when you are still dating someone and anxious about how the other feels for you.
I hope he just got cold feet, but seriously, when I told him that i love him, and he doesn’t say “i love you too” back, it hurts like hell. it’s so hard to accept it. When i asked him again, he said “I just don’t know how much I love you.”
He is still with me because i think it’s really stupid to break up like this, and he still very nice to me. But I just want to know that he is sure he loves me, just like before. I think he is confused and got scared about marriage. I hope that’s all and we will get over it one day.
What should I do? I’m crying here. I am so sure that I love him, so much that I can’t imagine us with anyone else. I love him so much that i find it ridiculous he can get confused.