(Closed) Really?! SIL wants to do a vow renewal at 1 year

posted 6 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

Wow. I feel for you. Your sister sounds very immature.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 4
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

What an idiot.  I’d probably end up saying something really bitchy and passive aggressive

Post # 5
9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

You might want to remind her that Heidi Klum and Seal did the same thing.  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 6
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


How old is she?

She sounds very immature….

Post # 7
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Sunfire:  I snorted with laughter at this one.

Post # 8
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Sounds like she likes the idea of a wedding not a mariage. 

Post # 9
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ick. I thought it was strange and obsessive when my SIL said that she wanted to do a renewal every 5 years. She sounds extremely irritating and self absorbed.

Post # 10
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel you. Sometimes I want to desperately have children and know part of me wants to simply to beat BIL and SIL to the draw. I know this isn’t a healthy feeling but that’s how I really do feel sometimes. 

thought #2- she sounds like a real joy to be around ๐Ÿ˜› God knows what their 50 year anniversary will be like… if they even make it to that! Marriage is about the relationship… certainly not about feeling like a princess all the time. 

Post # 11
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

To be honest it doesn’t bother me if a couple wants to renew their vows every year. Some say the first year of marriage is the most difficult with all the transitions and changes so I think a one year renewal is perfectly acceptable.

HOWEVER! I don’t think vow renewals should be made into another big event. They should be between the husband and wife as something intimate that is shared to reconnect and recommit. Using a vow renewal as a way to gain additional attention, gifts etc is not appropriate in my humble opinion. Think Ramona on RHNY, ick!

Post # 12
2548 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with Treejewel on this one. What a couple decides to do is their thing. If someone wants to celebrate their love every year, more power to them. But I think it should be more of an intimate affari, not some big shindig to have all the attention on them, year after year, after year. It sounds desperate, and attention grabby.

Post # 13
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My husband and I plan on renewing our vows on our 5th anniversary and then every 5-10 years after that! However, it will just be us two, on our vacation during the time of our anniversary! We want to do it because we want to “renew” our love and thank each other for the previous successful years. My husband loves the idea and feels its a celebration of our years (one block at a time).

On the flip side, we dont want to make a show out of it. We don’t want to invite anyone but our children! (If that) LOL!!  

I feel like your friend is looking just to have another wedding, just for the actual wedding! Does she have a good relationship with her husband as far as you know? Was it good when they entered marriage? 

Post # 14
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel like it could be a good idea to renew vows privately every year. I plan on doing so with Darling Husband on our anniversary, if anything just to remind us what we initially promised each other. Another wedding? Um no…  ๐Ÿ˜‰ Maybe in five or ten years but I couldn’t imagine doing that so soon. 

Post # 15
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015


I agree with this. I don’t understand women who had huge weddings and then want huge vow renewals. I know a woman like that; she had a huge wedding the first time she was married. Then, she had another big wedding the second time she was married and now she is having a big vow renewal for her tenth. What she doesn’t realize is that people think she looks like an attention seeking idiot.

Vow renewals are also not appropriate for first anniversaries. Most couples wait until at least the tenth or even fifth to renew vows.

Your sister-in-law should spend that money on therapy to figure out why she needs so much attention.

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