Post # 1
It’s enough that FI have been fighting from stress lately, and that everyone has to tell me what they think I should do non- stop… but people rarely ever actually help. But now the week of my wedding my mom and sister tell me things I should have taken care of that include changing things that were finalized with my final payment last week. I’ve done pretty much everything for the wedding myself, FI are even paying for everything. I still have a ton to do for the wedding and honeymoon (with no help…), and I’m suppose to think of everything and know everything under the sun. GAHHHHHHHH!
So here I am crying like a big baby on my couch because I just got yelled at by my mom and sister for ruining things that aren’t even a big deal to begin with. You can’t just change the contract and add things in after a final count and payment were do. The venue needs notice!
Post # 3
@HotPinkFire: Deep breaths. They are jerks for even yelling at you to start. If it’s minor stuff you can always check with the venue, but you don’t have to. This is about you and your soon to be hubby getting married and nothing else. You will get it all done, because that’s what women do. <<hugs>>
Post # 4
*hugs* what are they asking to be changed? If it is something you agree with, perhaps the vendors would be amenable to the change if it isn’t too drastic. However, if it is something you do not agree with and your mom and sis are just putting in their 2 cents where it isn’t needed/asked for, the heck with that! You do what you want to do and do what is right.
Hang in there, sister. You and I are both to be married this upcoming weekend. Take a breather with your FI and don’t do anything wedding for an hour or so. Have a nice dinner together, candlelight, and relax. You can pick up whatever last minute detail after you’ve eaten and had a chance to reconnect sweetly.
Oh man, let us PLEASE get through this last week, right? 😉
Post # 6
@HotPinkFire: BREATHE…. HUGS TO YOU
Post # 7
Breathe, OK now Breathe again,
Everyone gets stressed around a wedding, including a mom and sister who arent the bride! Everything seems bigger and worse than they really are.
I do have a suggestion (although you dont need someone else to tell you what to do) but it may help in the end.
I would send an email or call your mom and sister now telling them that “You don’t think those items are important in the grand scheme of things, that you are excited to be married to FI and you are glad that they are going to be there. But, also, that you are really stressed and emotional and really need some love and support from them this week. That you want to have good memories of the week before of your sister and mother prepping, and this isnt a good start because you are crying. That you want to start over tomorrow.”
I know its tough. Hugs.
Post # 8
@HotPinkFire: I’m so sorry!! Everyone gets so stressed during the planning. My mom and I got upset with each other too but it all blows over and works out in the end. Treat yourself to a quiet night and a glass of wine!
Post # 9
@CanadianMermaid: wine fixes everything. 😉
Post # 10
@Mrs B to be: glad im not the only one that thinks so 😉
Post # 11
I feel like I’ve lost my mind this week. I thought this was suppose to be happy… instead it’s just stressful and upsetting. I’m really excited to marry him, but I always thought weddings were suppose to go differently… and why did they yell at me?
Thanks Ladies! It’s nice to have some fellow bees to turn to.
Post # 12
@Cornflakegirl: I need to contact them again and see if someone else can help me get the tiny detail changed. The problem is that they didn’t help with anything and it’s not nice to tell me that things need to be changed the week of. It’s nice to know I have someone that understands exactly what I’m going through right now! I really hope we do make it through without going insane!
Post # 13
Ooooo that is my biggest pet peeve – people telling me what to do and what I need to do and then not helping, especially when it is something that they should be helping me with to begin with, or if it is something that has nothing to do with them, but they are telling me what to do anyway.
Get off the couch and go do something fun! Then make a list of what YOU need to do, and try to push out of your mind what they yelled at you for.
Post # 14
I hope you’re feeling better!
Maybe just take an hour of two for “you”? It’s so close to your wedding that you’re probably so stressed right now, and there are people around you that aren’t helping at all.
Also, do what @lefeymw: said. I don’t think they’re stressing out just to stress you out, but they want things to be perfect for you.
Post # 15
I don’t really have anything to add except for some (((((hugs)))))). Hope today is better!
Post # 16
Things are getting better! Thanks Ladies! I guess I just never thought this particular week would be more stressful for me and for everyone else. I need to stop watching wedding movies. lol.