Post # 1
At first, we were going to have at least 70 to 75 people at the ceremony and reception but FI kept telling me he would prefer if we would have a nice small intimate ceremony and reception. I finally decided we would and there will be 25 ppl max at the ceremony and reception. His children, a few friends and my brother, maybe one of my nephews from Brazil who will be visiting Canada at the time of my wedding. Both my parents have passed away as well as FI parents. Only one of my future sister in law and her spouse will be attending.
Despite the fact that we will be only about 25 ppl, I find myself going nuts over every little detail. I want everything to be nice, perfect and elegant. I’m wondering if I’m the only one who’s reacting like that or if there are other brides to be whose wedding ceremony and reception is also going to be small reacting the same way I am. The ceremony and reception will be held at my FI daughter’s home.
I’d like to hear from other brides to be on this subject.
Post # 3
No matter the size of the wedding you want everything to be perfect and attention to detail. We’re having 50 guests and I’m going crazy over all the details and DIY projects to personalize everything. We’ll still have a DJ and dance floor and all the details of a large wedding, just on a smaller scale. We found a great venue that caters to small and large weddings so we have a perfect sized reception room. I’m working on a lot of stuff to add the charming details I’m looking for.
Post # 4
I actually think it’s easier to get obsessed with the details of a small wedding, because so many of the large wedding issues don’t exist to distract you. But enjoy it, there’s nothing wrong with a little obsessing here and there. Hopefully you only do this once, so why not make it as nice as you can?
Post # 5
Sweet and thank you so much for your responses. Really, I thought I was going crazy paying so much attention to details and all. I’m also doing alot of stuff myself. I did the centerpieces, got the flower decorations I wanted, the wedding cake knife and spatula I wanted. I’ll even be doing a wedding program with my youngest step daughter. I think its going to be fun doing that with her.
I’ve done the party favors. when I first showed them here, I did not get positive responses to my party favors so I’ve been redoing them all since last friday. They are rocks that I painted different colors and I’m writing a little quote on each one of them. The rocks will be place in a little pouch, a nice key chain attached to it and finally everything will be wrapped up in a nice apple green and silver satin tissue. We are also including a stone ritual during the ceremony and this summer I plan to find really nice little rocks or stones from our lake. I will wash, brush and do everything possible to make them look really nice and clean. They will be place in a heart shape vase and the guests will take one when they come in, hold it during the ceremony and then the officiant will say something about the stone ritual, then my youngest step grandaughter will go around get the stones from the guests and we will add ours. we will then keep this heart shape vase with the stones as a souvenir.
Unfortunately, we won’t have a dj and that makes me sad cuz I love music and dancing but the rest of the family really aren’t big dancers. I’m still having a special CD song (Mozart) for when I enter the main room where the ceremony will take place and then I also got another cd for the first wedding dance as wife and husband. I’ll try to delegate someone to put nice quiet music while we are eating and mingling.
It should be all fun.
Thank you all for your input.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Not weird at all. I got to obsess over the details precisely because we had a small wedding (35 invited). Since I had fewer of each thing to worry about, I was able to spend more time on each one. For example, I got to hand make 32 menu cards. If I had needed 100 menu cards, I would have needed to choose something more basic. But since I only needed to make 32, they could be more detailed and labor intensive. I loved our details.
Post # 7
Our wedding was 25 people including us, but it was a DW. I totally wanted the small details to count too. We had a disaster of a day that was caused by the venues and some guests. I’m sure you will have a beautiful day.
Post # 8
MASPA I guess I’m like you. I really want the small details to count and I think the guests will notice those small details. I’m so sorry you had a disaster of a day. I guess there will always be some guests who can make things deficult. I have one guest that I’m a little worried about but I’ve already had a chat with her so things should go alright.
lovekiss The menu cards are a great idea. I’m planning on doing a Wedding Program and have Our Love Story printed in the back of if but I really like the idea of the menu cards.
Thnak you both for your responses. Interesting to read.
Post # 9
I’m in a similar place, we’re having 64 people max, ourselves included. And yes, I have obsessed over every last detail because I’m able to. I’ll be honest, I’m getting a little bit overwhelmed right now, but I’ve got time yet!
Post # 10
We’re having 35-40 people and honestly, I wouldn’t do too much differently than what I am planning, just scale it up. We set the number because we both hate being the center of attention, but now I sometimes wish our friends could outnumber our families. Particularly as it seems like so much work and expense.
Post # 11
We are having an intimate wedding of less than 30 people as well, and I am enjoying that I’m able to go a little overboard and think outside of the box in the way of what we are doing for our wedding, as well as be our untraditional selves. I’m so excited to be able to do (and afford!!!) all the things we couldn’t do had we gone for a normal large wedding.
For example, we are having a bon fire in the evening or our reception with a s’mores bar. I feel like doing this with a lot more people would be a cluster f***.
We are also able to host all of our guests’ meals from Friday night through Sunday morning, and have somewhat of a “wedding weekend.” This means more details to coordinate, but it’s not so bad since it’s a small number of people to entertain.
In lieu of favors, I am writing each individual guest a personalized, short it-means-so-much-to-us-that-you-are-here-today note. Could not do that with a hundred people.
Personalized details is what makes your wedding your wedding. As long as you can handle it, GO NUTS!
Post # 12
@Lauraine: our wedding is only going to have 10 people. because of this, EVERY detail has been looked at like a million times and we still have until October! I guess because its so small, we are going all in on every piece, from the highest end menu to the highest end resort, etc etc.. So we want everything to be perfect perfect perfect or else why spend all the money?!?! I totally agree with you! its driving me nuts and I know I need to chill because it will all be just fine – I just dont want any regrets or wish I had done something else instead of whatever we decide on – even from favors to dresses to gift bags!
Post # 13
I’m so glad to read that there are still some people who want a really, small intimate wedding ceremony and reception. Sometimes, I do wish we would hold the ceremony and reception in a place other than my step daughter’s home just so I could invite more friends but then I think no way. It would just mean more money spent, more headaches, etc. etc. and plus we would never get to get out of there with more people to have to talked to. I found a beautiful romantic getaway package in a hotel where I stayed the very first time I came to this city 36 years ago. The hotel has been entirely renovated and plus check out time is 2 pm the day after the wedding instead of the usual noon.YES!
jmlw7 October is a beautiful month (my birthday is in October heehee) but joke aside, everyone I know who has ever gotten married in October has had good weather. I too have to chill out a bit about the wedding cuz really what can really go wrong with such a small guests list that cannot be resolved the day of the ceremony-reception.
FutureMrsLAL having a bonfire sure sounds like its going to be so much fun. will you be wearing your wedding dress during that time?
jsanford I also would like to have more friends come to our wedding but where do we stop? It would be crazy if i would invite all the people I consider friends. So, I’ve decided to invite my best friend of over 30 years and her better half, another friend and her better half I’ve known for over 25 years.