Really struggling with this one….what would you do?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: What would you do in my shoes?
    1) Ireland (his hometown and our wedding location) : (14 votes)
    56 %
    2) New Hampshire (my hometown) - closer and easier to get too : (12 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    Just based on the logistics, I would lean towards doing the wedding “reshoot” in your current town. You wouldn’t have to abandon Ireland though, you could go back there as your first anniversary trip and get some great photos in street clothes instead of your wedding attire.

    You would get important photos from where you met and married and where you live together now, plus the logisitics are much easier.

    Post # 4
    720 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    If money isn’t an issue, I’d go back to Ireland! But that’s just because I LOVE Ireland and I’d take any excuse I could to take another trip there.

    That said, I’m also from NH and it’s beautiful there, too. And it would be a lot easier on both of you. Plus, you might find you like the variety of having wedding photos from both locations.

    Post # 6
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would do a first anniversary re-shoot back in Ireland!

    Post # 7
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Encore Bride… and Older Bee here (over 50)

    So I’ve seen A LOT of life

    Ok, I hope you take this with the kindness with which it is intended…

    Truth is…

    There are times in life that we cannot just “go back” and do over

    True you could fly back to Ireland, put on your gorgeous gown and have pics taken at the spot you were married


    There will be LOVE in your eyes between your Hubby & yourself

    BUT it won’t be the excitement of NEW MARRIED LOVE

    (Infact as someone who has little patience for the pose, pose, pose, smile, smile, smile routine… you may actually see a little BOREDOM in your faces after all is said & done)

    Never mind the ANXIETY of “God I hope we get it right this time round” having a do over and spending all that money

    Truth is your Wedding Day was ONE DAY, and it was what it was… and THAT IS WHAT MAKES IT SPECIAL

    Clouds, Rain, Wind… and all (even the lack of photos)

    Embrace what you have… as it is all part of YOUR DAY… and what sets it appart from any other(s)

    — — —

    That said,

    I am all in favour of MAKING NEW MEMORIES

    So if you want to go out and have a Photo Shoot with a NEW perspective than go ahead and do that…

    Be it one getting dressed up in all your finery again in a new setting

    Some Brides & Grooms do this either to get great pics after the Wedding…

    Because they Eloped or married in one city, and had a Renewal of Vows / Reception in another

    OR they just decide to do something different and a bit of fun (like a Trash the Dress Shoot)

    Either can produce some great pics.

    So my best advice for you…

    Either fly home to Ireland on say your First Anniversary… and make THAT the theme of your Photos

    OR Do something great in New Hampshire… or somewhere’s else

    (Having been to NH many times… there is such spectacular scenery, and sooo many great places to choose from for a Photo Shoot with the gorgeous historic towns, mountains, valleys, lakes or ocean as a backdrop… even a Trash the Dress Shoot could be SPECTACULAR somewhere along the coast line like Rye Beach)

    I say embrace what you have… and move forward with your Marriage

    Don’t look back with regrets… look forward with pleasure.

    — — —

    PS… For the record my own Wedding Pics this time round weren’t all that I dreamed of either (and made me sad, as my First Wedding Pics were SPECTACULAR compared to them).

    BUT I have looked at them several times, and can now accept / embrace them for what they are… a “record” of OUR DAY… those precious moments.  I have chosen some special ones to treasure / frame / feature.  And I have complimented them with other pics that I have from our AMAZING Honeymoon.  Together they form a meaningful collage of “our time”

    I won’t be doing a reshoot in my Wedding Dress … and I am ok with that.  That is my choice.  BUT I will be doing some sort of photo shoot to mark our 5th, 10th, etc Anniversaries.  To mark the fact that we continue to move forward in our marriage.  Memories are good… but trying to go back and recreate them, well that just doesn’t make a lot of sense to me.  That ship has sailed.

    PPS… Do you own the rights to your Wedding Photos ?  Reason I ask, is I found even the worst of the lot had GOOD ELEMENTS… and I found by cropping them, I could get some really great shots / memories.

    Here are two examples:

    LOVING Hands & Feet

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 9
    3841 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @HappinessIsInDaisies:   I think it’s a great first anniversary idea, in any case I’d suggest going back to Ireland for a re-shoot.   And make appropriate sacrifices to the weather gods.  LOL   

    Post # 10
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @BrandNewBride:  +1

    Love the idea of a first anniversary reshoot! Fun, memorable and a very special anniversary…not to mention you’ll be getting the photos you wanted! 🙂

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