Really struggling with weight

posted 3 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC

@mrscross1020:  Don’t pay attention to the number on the scale! I know that’s hard because I have the constant urge to weigh myself, but the number really doesn’t tell the whole story and can be quite misleading. If you’re going to the gym 5 days a week, then you’ve probably gained muscle mass. Muscle weighs more than fat, so gaining muscle will make the number on the scale go up! That’s a good thing! You’re getting in shape and building muscle, which will make it easier to lose weight and keep it off in the long run. It takes a while to lose actual fat content weight, which sucks, but give it time and don’t get discouraged!

What types of exercise are you doing? 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@mrscross1020:  Losing weight is much more about diet than exercise. Weight watchers online is awesome and it works.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

@mrscross1020:  No real advice, just here to say I  know excactly how you feel. I’m in the same boat you are…similar history too. My SO is really encouraging, which is great, but he doesn’t get how hard it is to lost weight when you’ve struggled w/ it for so long. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Concentrate on how you look, how you feel and how your clothes fit.  Eat healthy – lean meats, veggies, whole grains.  Keep up the exercise – PP’s are right, you could be losing fat but gaining muscle.

I’ve been tracking my weight since the beginning of January or so, and my scale hasn’t been reflecting much of a loss, but I’ve noticed my clothes fitting better and my bum is getting perkier.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@mrscross1020:  The eating right part can be so confusing! People give you all sorts of different advice, and it gets ridiculous. If you want to count calories, there are some free apps that help with that (myfitnesspal, lose it!). If you don’t want to deal with calories, there are other options like meal replacements and WW… So confusing and frustrating!

I actually hate to give advice for any of this stuff, because everyone’s body is so different! I will tell you one thing that makes a huge difference for me–eating protein with breakfast. Eggs, turkey bacon, protein bars or shakes, whatever… It just helps me stay feeling fuller longer than something like oatmeal. I usually have a sweet-tasting shake or protein meal bar on days when I work, and it keeps me away from the vending machine all day. Of course that may not work for you, but it was the one piece of advice someone gave me that actually makes a difference.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC

@mrscross1020:  That’s really good! I was going to say that weights are a really helpful way to lose weight. Maybe try adding in some interval-type workouts a few times a week too. You can do those on any machine. For example, warm up for 5 minutes, then run/bike/elliptical harder or faster for one minute, followed by 2 minutes easy, for the middle 20 minutes, then cool down for 5 minutes. Or, add some sprints after your initial 20-30 minute workout. Another helpful “rule of thumb” that I go by is that the first 30 minutes are spent burning carbs and sugars; fat burn doesn’t begin until after the first 30 minutes of a workout. 

Additionally, your body might be plateauing. You can fix this by slowly extending your workouts or adding reps to your weight routines. For example, this week work out for 5 minutes longer or one more set of weights. Increase by 5 minutes the next week, etc. Or add a new type of workout, such as pilates or a HIIT workout or jumping rope for 10 minutes. You basically have to “shock” your body into expending more energy again. Try not to get into too much of a routine with the types of exercises you do, or your body will get used to it and not need to use as much energy and calories.

As a PP stated, losing weight relies more on diet. Make sure your body has the vitamins and minerals it needs, as well, because a deficiency in that area can cause your body to hold weight in an effort to get nutrients it’s lacking. You can also try using a sauna after your workouts. It’ll only get rid of water weight, but it may make you feel a little better. Your body will also burn more calories when you’re warmer!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@mrscross1020:  Excercise is wonderful and absolutely necessary but the main thing that will help you lose weight is actually your diet. 

Fizzy drinks full of sugar are your number one enemy. Sure, they taste good but give your body absolutely nothing except empy calories. If you drink those, try switching to plain old water, herbal tea or natural lemonade (without sugar of course). You might hate it at first but I got so used to non-sweetened drinks that in a month, I couldn’t stand the taste of sweetened ones, I swear. 

Then, examine your eating habits. How often to you eat? Where and what do you eat? Eating out, pizza, chips and burgers have to go if you want to lose weight I’m afraid. Try preparing most of your meals yourself – it’s the only way you can be sure what goes in! 

Try whole-grain pasta and bread, brown rice and similar food, fill up on lean protein such as turkey or grilled chicken breast, eat lots of vegetables, both raw and cooked. What works for me is eating all of my starchy carbs by 4 or 5pm – if I eat pasta at 8pm, I swear it goes straight to my hips.  

Don’t shy away from healthy fats! Your body needs fats for energy and to make the most of certain vitamins. Just make sure you use olive oil, sesame seed oil or similar healthy fats. 

Be kind to yourself. If you find yourself craving something sweet, have a piece of dark chocolate. It’s actually good for you! Just don’t eat the whole bar  – though I know how hard it is to stop! lol 

Good luck. I’ve been battling with my weight my whole life too and it’s a neverending struggle but with some tricks, you can really stay on top of it. Not two people are the same though so you just need to find out what works for you. For me, the trick is eating a big breakfast, a normal lunch and a teeny tiny supper – try that, it might work! 

You could also consult a dietitian? They might have some ideas of their own. Fingers crossed for you – you can do this!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@mrscross1020:  well WW is nice because you can eat whatever you want – you just have to be honest about logging it. It takes the guess work away.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mrscross1020: I won’t offer you any advice about dieting or working out, because I’m sure you’ve read it all already. Losing weight isn’t rocket science, right? Burn more calories than you take in.

Easier said than done, obviously. Trust me, I know. 🙂

I’ll tell you what’s worked for me in terms of goal-setting though. First, I set goals that are actionable. Example: “I am going to eat a produce and a protein at every meal,” “I am going to log my calories every day,” and “I am going to do my strength training video 3 times a week.”

Not an actionable goal: “I’m going to lose 5 lbs.” It’s not actionable because, while you activities might result in losing 5 lbs, it’s not something you can decide to just DO.

Also not an actionable goal: “I won’t eat any sweets.” I don’t consider this actionable because NOT doing something is not the same as doing something. I personally find it easier to make myself DO something than deprive myself of something.

Second, I don’t deprive myself of anything. I find that the minute I ban myself from eating something, that is ALL i can think about and I end up binging and feeling horrible about myself. If I want a big cookie, I just eat the damn cookie and forget about it. It’s probably not as effective as sticking to a strict calorie count, but it’s better than binging on an entire box of cookies later and it’s definitely much better for my mental health.

Which leads me to the third thing that has worked for me, which is that I am kind to myself. If I “screw up,” I forgive myself and move on. We’re only human, and eating a cookie isn’t the end of the world. Shit, eating the entire box isn’t the end of the world! Loving yourself and being kind to yourself makes a much better life than beating yourself up to meet a physical ideal.

Hope that helps! Oh and also, I highly recommend lifting weights. I feel soooo much better about myself when I lift vs. running on the cardio machines like some sort of crazed hampster. 🙂

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