Really terrible phone call with my mother…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@globalmargaret:  That was certainly a disappointing reaction, wasn’t it? Not knowing you or your Mom, there must be some reason she was so negative. Or, does she just not want to be a grandmother?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

What in the world? It seems that you are in a great position to have a child. What is her reasoning? Try not to let it bother you 🙁 and congrats!! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@globalmargaret:  Oh congratulations!  A baby is such a blessing.

Sorry your mom had such a reaction. Do you know why she would say that?

Anyway, I hope you don’t let that deter you from telling others.  Your other family and his family will probably be happy for you guys.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

@globalmargaret: You’re married, happy and financially stable…why would she say, “I can’t believe you did this, what am I going to do with you”?  

That’s beyond weird and a really inappropriate/unsuuportive thing for her to say.  You need to give yourself a hug, give your husband a hug, and get excited!  You’re going to be a mama!  

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Awww…so sorry. My mom also reacted that way. I was 24 at the time. She hung up and didn’t speak to me for days. My dad called me back and apologized for her and that was the very first time he’d ever actually called me! Lol! Good thing is…once she got over the fact that she WAS about to be a GRANDMOTHER (that’s what it was REALLY about), she went all out. That baby was the light of her life. She will come around. Worry not and C O N G R A T S!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@globalmargaret:  That is crazy! Sorry for her sad response. Congrats on the baby! 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@globalmargaret:  Ugh I’m sorry.  Did you have any idea she would react like that?  I would be devastated.

This is a little different but when my mom told my grandmother she was pregnant with me she said in a very unenthusiastic voice “you are are you?” I was an only grandchild and she adored and spoiled me, just had an inappropriate initial reaction. 

When my mom told my grandmother she was engage the reaction was worse.  She said “DH asked me to marry him” grandma: “And you said no?” Mom: No… grandma “and you said you’d think about it?” Mom: No… Grandma (horrified) “you said yes?!” My mother was 19 at the time, but still.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

What? You’re financially stable, and married (though no judgement if you weren’t!). But I can’t imagine why she’s not happy for you!

I hope the rest of your family will react TOTALLY differently!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Sorry to hear she had such an unsupportive reaction! Hopefully she will come around. 

Congrats on your pregnancy!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Sorry to hear she had such an unsupportive reaction! Hopefully she will come around. 

Congrats on your pregnancy!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I know it won’t make up for her reaction but CONGRATULATIONS!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My mother reacted in a really hurtful way too. Her exact words were ‘not another grandchild (my brother had one with one on the way), one’s enough. I thought you weren’t sure you wanted children?’ I am married, financially stable and 34!! About 5 years ago we had a conversation where I said I wasn’t sure about kids – but who hasn’t had those thoughts?! It was obvious I thought I was giving her good news. She later denied point blank she’d said those things. Mixed with a few other things my relationship has really taken a turn for the worst with her now. She’s not particularly involved in her other grand child’s life, so who knows what her problem is!

But, the rest of my family and all my friends reacted appropriately and were all really excited and happy for me. I’m sure yours will be too.

Post # 16
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Newbee

Wow! I’m sorry to hear that she had such a negative reaction. I’m sure she will come around though. Congratulations on your pregnancy! 

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