Post # 1
My mother informed me to day that my brother is bringing a date to my wedding on Saturday. Nevermind that I turned in a final headcount to the caterer two weeks ago or the fact that I don’t know this girl from Adam. She’s “just happy he has a girl to bring.” Excuse me? I know my brother is unlucky in love, but most of the time it’s his own damn fault and my wedding is not the place to introduce this girl to the family. Ugh.
Also, according to Fed Ex, my flowers won’t be here until Friday instead of tomorrow. On Friday, I’ll already be at the venue and there’s no one who can sign for the flowers. The CS rep I talked to tried to tell me that it was a mistake in the Fed Ex tracking system and that they’ll be here tomorrow. Do what? Dude, I managed the Internet department of a retail operation for a few years. I know shipping. My shipping reps hated to hear from me because that meant someone on their end had royally screwed up. Don’t bullshit me and tell me that it’s a problem in Fed Ex’s system.
I’ve stayed fairly calm thus far, but this is not cool.
Post # 3
There will almost certainly be at least one no-show, and your brother’s date can take that person’s place. No, this is not an ideal situation, but in the grand scheme of things it’s probably not worth the energy you’re sinking into being upset about it.
I hope everything works out with the flower delivery!
Post # 4
anyone planning a wedding should always make room for a few extras on the day of. Its just one of those things that happen.
I think this is just one thing not to spend the energy stressing about.
Post # 5
@Sugaree: Dude that is not cool about your brother’s GF. I would let mom know you’ve already turned in the final numbers and she can’t be seated until every RSVPed guest is accounted for.
As for your flowers, I understand. Last minute wedding hiccups are horrible. My favors did not arrive until the Thursday before our wedding and it took hours to assemble them.
It will all work out dear!!
Post # 6
@LuvMySailor: Dude that is not cool about your brother’s GF. I would let mom know you’ve already turned in the final numbers and she can’t be seated until every RSVPed guest is accounted for.
Exactly this. Tell him no. If you have a seating chart, this will screw things up, not to mention that your final numbers are already in. Was he invited with a +1? You need to call him (not your mother) and tell him no.
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: +1 count your blessings if this is the worst thing that has happened to you thus far.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@LuvMySailor: +1 and I disagree with
@RockStar33: isn’t it much more common for people that RSVP’d to no-show?! I would never count extra people in, you’re almost guaranteed to lose money! Although a good caterer/venue should accomodate you.
Put your foot down about this girl, you already turned final numbers into the venue! That’s reason enough! I won’t tolerate that crap with my upcoming wedding!
Post # 9
@vorpalette: We don’t actually have a seating chart so that’s not neccessarily an issue, but I’m paying close to $60 per person (not including alcohol) which is extremely high for this area. FI and I are also paying for it ourselves (with a generous wedding gift from FI’s mom) so there’s a reason that only 60 people were invited in the first place.
He didn’t have a +1 because when invitations went out he had just broken up with his last “girlfriend” (the had only gone out like three time and we never met her). This one is one that he met New Year’s Eve. Of course, knowing his history she may dump him before Saturday. Unfortunately, he is the golden child and will get what he wants. He’ll cry to mom and mom will offer her meal to the girl.
Post # 10
@mchitt329: Because of the way the food is being done, I had already lowballed the headcount by 3 people (told the caterer 37 adults when I have RSVP yeses for 40). This was done to take into account no-shows. With such a small guest list, I know exactly who is coming and who is likely to flake out and took these factors into account.
Post # 11
@Sugaree: This is why I’m glad that I’m an only child. I know not all siblings are like this (2 of FI’s 3 siblings are great, and I adore them), but ugh. I’d throttle him.
Post # 12
Caterer’s always have extra for situations like that..and like a PP said, someone is bound to not show up that said they’d be there. Be happy your brother is bringing a date. I’m sure he didn’t want to come alone to a wedding. Give him a break.
Post # 13
It will really work out in the end. Sorry your stressed.
Post # 14
@mchitt329: yes, it is more common for people to no show. I never payed for “extra people” but i had a couple extra come at the last minute, and thankfully it worked out that i had 2 no shows, so they just had to eat whatever the no shows ordered.
Like someone said, caterers always account and have extra food on hand anyway for situations like this, among other reasons.