(Closed) Really Upset.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was going to suggest what you suggested!

The ceremony is going to be the most important part for her! So have a small ceremony with just immediate family before hand just for her!

And the great thing about it is, god forbid, if she gets sicker sooner you can have the ceremony sooner! So she won’t miss out no matter what!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Can you postpone until after she’s done?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh my gosh, how sweet are you?! I’m sending happy thoughts to your FMIL, I hope her chemo and further treatments go well.

This is going to sound silly, but you could arrange for a webcam on your end and a laptop on hers and Skype the ceremony and reception to her? Otherwise, I think the ceremony the night before would mean SO much to her and is so lovely of you to do that for her. You’re a very thoughtful and wonderful daughter-in-law!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think having a ceremony the night before sounds very special. Best of luck to your FI’s mom that she will make it through and get better.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry about your FI’s mom.

Another suggestion is to have a webcam set up for her, so she can watch the ceremony taking place, and then after you and your FI are “officially” married, take some time out with her and chat with her for a bit. You could even do a toast with her; let her have what she is toasting with with her and you two have your drinks and then toast each other.

In your case, I would also try to budget in a videographer, so you can watch it with her later. With the videographer, she would also be able to see the people at the reception and each of you could make comments about everyone toghether.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sorry Double Post

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

First off, I am so sorry she and your is going through this.  Can you Skype the wedding for her?  A videographer would also work to capture everything for her.  I think your idea of a small ceremony for her the night before is so touching and a very special way to share the moment with her. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I like the idea of having a web cam available for her to watch or get a videographer so she can watch the ceremony later.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If you can’t wait until the night before and she needs to go into isolation then  the weekend before she goes in get your hair done, wear your dress (even if it’s not altered yet or anything bc really that’s not that important) have your FI rent a tux and have a JP come to the house where she is and have a small ceremony then.

And as a pp said…have someone skype the actual ceremony for her. You don’t even need a computer to do it …cell phones work just as well.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@GingerCurls: Could you get one of those mobile internet stick thingies that are supposed to get you internet anywhere? Or maybe you have a guest with a smartphone on a 3G network? Then you don’t have to worry about the chapels non-internet issues!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was going to suggest a small ceremony the night before too! That will probabaly be your best bet so that way she can be there when you actually say I do. And to add some positive light on such a negative situation, you probably won’t be so nervous the day of the big wedding because the most important part will be over!

I also suggest having a close friend or family member videotape it just so that at some point she could watch it.

Good luck with everything, not sure what your beliefs are but I I will be praying for your FMIL!

(((hugs))))

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