Really Upset – No one came to shower

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My best friend had a very small shower. She complained but only because of how her mother did it. I was her MOH and her mom INSISTED on doing it her way so I stepped back and just contributed financially. I knew she would hate it. Her wedding was beautiful, though, so she got over her shower. 

Post # 3
120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

truefrommetoyou:  I’m so sorry, that’s awful! This is completely different and not wedding related, but I had a big 21st birthday party that my FI (BF at the time) put a lot of effort into, and almost no one came. I was heartbroken and had a similar moment of excusing myself to the bathroom to throw a pity party alone. I know how much it hurts, and I’m really sorry that happened to you!

Post # 4
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m so sorry. That must have been so disappointing!

Post # 5
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh, that sucks! Do you know why no one came (was there another event, like a friend’s wedding or something?)?

Post # 6
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

truefrommetoyou:  I’m so sorry! What a bummer. I’d be irritated at the RSVPs who cancelled last minute, and really, your BM should have made an effort(from yor post it didn’t sound like she had a valid reason not to go). Honestly though, as far everyone else goes, this might just be a sign of the times economically. I tend to turn down bridal showers because I just can’t afford them right now. I always try to buy a nice wedding gift though. That might be where a lot of people on your invite list are at. 

Post # 10
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Aww, I’m sorry. That really does suck. ::HUGS::. It’s a real downer when people bail on you like that. At least you got to spend the day with people that mean the most to you (well, except for that one lady you didn’t know very well 😉 ), like your FH and your kids. 

Post # 11
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m sorry you had such a disappointing shower 🙁 At least now you know the people who will be there for you if you need them. You’re in-laws sound great.

Post # 12
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

truefrommetoyou:  If there is one event that really gutted me it was my high school graduation party.  We called them Open Houses!  I went to a ton of my friends open houses and had a great time.  I did a brunch open house and only 1 friend came.  I was completely humiliated beyond belief.  We had so much food and decorations and ONE PERSON came.  Of course my boyfriend and his parents were there and my mom but it was….ugh…awful.  I still get choked up thinking about it and that was 14 years ago! 

It made me question who I was as a person, thinking ‘Ok, obivoulsy everyone hates me’ but it was just bad timing and people flaked (as they often do.)

I know how disappointed you must feel.  I’m so, so sorry.  My advice is to just move forward and quite honestly – let people know you’re disappointed.  If someone said they would be there and they wouldn’t – tell them how it made you feel.  There is nothing wrong with that.  People need to learn that their actions (or inaction) matters.  Love and hugs.

Post # 13
1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am so sorry, I know this must hurt. I just threw a baby shower for my best friend and only a handful of people showed up. I was angry because I spent a lot of time/money on the party, but more because it made her sad. She is such a good friend to these people and most of them couldn’t be bothered to show 🙁 Just remember this is not a reflection of you or your worth. Your closest friends (bridesmaids especially) should have been there unless there was a reasonable explanation (living out of state, illness…). 

Post # 14
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

truefrommetoyou: our wedding shower was that way. But we didn’t mind. We had fun and jus at chatted with people. We had myself and my husband, his parents and sister, my two bridesmaids, his best (wo)man and her husband and his roommate. Not as many activities and games and such, but quiet and a good time to swap stories. 

Post # 15
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

People are a-holes. Sorry you went through this. We’ve all been there at one time or another. I’d confront people. Not mean about it but just say I saw you RSVP’d but didn’t make it. i hope everything is o and no one is sick. Make it sound like you’re worried something is wrong with her or her family and see what the answer is. If it seems legit than just let it roll off your back. If it seems flaky than just explain how you feel about her ditching your shower.

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