- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Hey guys. This post is equal parts vent and advice-seeking. Here’s the sitch – I am feeling more and more desperate to move away from my hometown in the midwest for several reasons.
1) It’s freaking cold. We’re in Minneapolis where this past winter, we had 49 days below zero. Not below freezing, but below ZERO. The weather in the winter sucks. We’re still not done having below freezing highs. I hate the cold, always have, and I’m not into skiing/snowboarding or hockey where absurd amounts of snow and ice actually come in handy.
2) I had a terrible childhood. There were more than a few traumatic events in my childhood and the only family I have left is my Dad and my little brother, who i’m not terribly close with. I’m surrounded by memories that make me depressed.
3) Most of my friends have moved away. The only few friends I have left, I’ve drifted from since I had my son last summer. Sad, but true. I still see them every couple of months but it’s not the same. I’d really like to make new friends with other moms/married couples, but have no desire to do so here.
I would LOVE to move out to the Northwestern US. We have family out there who I get along with really well, and I feel at home there. I love being outdoors when it’s not flipping cold outside, and I actually love the rain. I studied in England for a semester and the rain was one of my favorite things about living there. I would glady move to England if my in-laws wouldn’t disown me for taking their grandson away.
Which brings me to why I’m having trouble. Here’s why it might not work out. Soon-to-be DH (yes, we started a family before getting married. We’re quirky like that.) is happy in Minneapolis. He also hates the cold and complains all winter, but loves the super humid summers, culture, friends he has here, and the facts that his family is only a state away in Iowa. My He sympathizes with me, but hates the thought of moving (the actual process of it) and doesn’t want to upset his mother who would be devastated.
So basically, my options are: suck it up and probably be unhappy for a while but maybe get used to it, or keep trying to convince him to move our family 4 states over.
Also, he has a job where he can work from home and is also able to work remotely in any state he choses until he finds a different job, so finding work isn’t really an issue. He would just rather not work remotely which I understand. I currently work part-time for a company that could easily transfer me out there, but I will probably be taking more classes in the next couple of years to switch careers.
Does anyone here sort of get where I’m coming from, or have any of you been in a similar situation? What was the outcome? Are you happy where you live?
Thanks for reading!