(Closed) Reasons for showers beyond gifts?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Shower?
    No shower - you won't miss it! : (2 votes)
    15 %
    Game Night Couple's shower - no presents : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Game Night Couple's shower - don't open the presents : (3 votes)
    23 %
    Game Night Couple's shower - have to open presents in front of everyone : (2 votes)
    15 %
    Traditional shower - no presents : (0 votes)
    Traditional shower - don't open presents : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Traditional shower - have to open presents in front of everyone : (4 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    3992 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I guess it depends on what you want to “purpose” of the shower to be. For mine, it is pretty traditional (a proper English tea) but the purpose for me is to get all the girls together, some who don’t know each other well, and have them get to know each other before the wedding.

    I love the idea of a couples game night with everyone bringing their favorite game. You can spend the night chatting or playing the games – I’d even ask for the guests to not wrap them so you can get straight to the playing (and you dont’ have to open a lot  of stuff).

    Post # 4
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I had a couple’s shower and it was so much fun. We just BBQed and watched football, and I felt so comfortable. I did open presents, even though I’m like you and it was a bit awkward. The theme was stock the bar so it wasn’t as formal as a traditional shower. People bought us beer, liquor, and alcohol related accessories.

    ETA: Purposes of the showers, in my opinion, are to celebrate the upcoming marriage, and bring together two sets of friends/family. It was great to see my family interact with FI’s, and my friends from college interact with friends from my life post-college. It’s not really about the gifts to me… though I can’t lie and say they’re not nice 🙂

    Post # 5
    9217 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @JenGirl:  she requested a couples shower that was basically a backyard BBQ with a stock the bar theme.

    Oh man, that is a great idea!  I hadn’t thought I’d have a shower, for all the reasons you mentioned above… but hmm…

    I also like @Glasgowbound:  ‘s idea of board games.  Maybe a “drinks or games” theme?

    My problem with showers is that it seems a little gift-grabby (to me) – I’ve enjoyed going to a couple other people’s and didn’t have the perception.  But I don’t know about having one myself.  This is the least helpful response ever – just wanted to say that I hear ya! : )

    Post # 6
    7653 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The only thing you miss out on at a shower is the ladies of the two families getting together. You could easily achieve this without a bridal shower though. Honestly, gifts at a bridal shower really aren’t that important, and you will get plenty for the wedding. I would do a bbq or game night with no gifts. Just a fun night!

    Post # 7
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I guess for me the purpose of the shower definitely isnt the gifts. Its to get some of the close women to me together to chat and converse with them because I may not get any intimate time with them on wedding day. For us this is the same reason to have a rehearsal dinner with wedding party and immediate family. I do know these events are traditional parts of the wedding but not everyone has them or agrees on the point of the events  

    Post # 8
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @JenGirl:  If you would like to do a no gift shower, then do that… but do not use the word shower anywhere! The very meaning of ‘shower’ in that context is shower with gifts. 

    I would call it a ‘Pre Wedding Celebration’ or something where etiquette does not call for gifts.

    If you do any type of shower with gifts, I think it is important to open the presents in front of people so that you can publicly and personally acknowledge them. It’s a little strange not having a gift opening section at a shower. You could make a game out of it though… there’s something called Shower Bingo you can lookup so everyone can have fun.

    Post # 9
    2 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It’s great that your friend will be throwing you a shower and that you basically will have input on everything.  That makes it a whole lot easier because you get to have it exactly how you want!  Every shower is different, some people will tell you to follow a set of rules for etiquette while others will tell you completely different “rules.”  It sounds like you want to have a causual get together with close friends for a game night. Awesome idea!

    For gifts, I’ve heard of people just saying to bring unwrapped gifts so everything will be on display, you can thank them right when they come, and you don’t have to worry about boring everyone and feeling awkward opening all the gifts. Everybody will get to see everything you got too.  I don’t see anything wrong with asking for monetary gifts only, just have cute poem on the invite. You can find several just doing a search online. Or you can choose to do no gifts, but I wouldn’t call it a shower then.  I would say maybe engagement party or prewedding celebration.  You might still get gifts anyway which is great, but you won’t have to open them in front of everyone. Just make sure to give a thank you note to all who gave you something.

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