Post # 1
Hi All –
My sister and her fiance have been engaged for two years and have set their date for October 2014. They are having an intimate (10 guests) destination wedding. My fiance proposed in November of this past year and when determining a date, we decided that this summer was too soon, September/October were out per my sister (for obvious reasons), the winter in the midwest is absolutely brutal so that was a no, and next spring is so far away. We are almost 31 and really didn’t want to have an 18+ month engagement. I discussed with my sister and she agreed that we could have our wedding in November 2014, one month after hers. We will be having around 75-100 people attend our wedding downtown. As things are being planned (showers, bachelorettes) I am now having major regrets putting my wedding so close to my sisters. I don’t want my events to overshadow hers or vice-versa but I seem to care about it much more than her.
I’d just love a little reassurance from you all that I did the right thing!
Post # 2
I think it could be fun planning your weddings together. And, it is good that it is DIFFERENT (destination vs. in town) that way, no one will compare the other’s choices. I will assume by your sister saying she did not mind, that you too have a good relationship, so don’t overthink it ! I would definitely think it’s fun to plan my wedding with my sister. And she probably doesn’t feel the little regret you do because, hers comes first, but it doesn’t mean it will overcast your preparation, nor will yours do hers – again, because they are two completely different ceremonies.
Have fun !
Post # 3
If you were both having ceremonies and receptions in the same town I could foresee A problem, but because hers is a very small destination wedding, I think theres nothing wrong with it! 🙂
Post # 4
Your weddings are so different I dont see a problem.
Post # 5
Bchicagos: It’s different enough and you were considerate! It will be fine. I kind of want my niece to celebrate her 2nd birthday at the morning after wedding day brunch — it will be so cute and fun since I never get to see her, but my FI doesn’t really want that.
It’s hard to balance — you’re doing the best you can!