Post # 1
Hi everyone. I personally came to this site to get ideas, interact with other brides to be, and be supportive of others and have them be supportive of me. I wrote a post expressing my distress on a matter that is important to me, and I received many opinions, some of which were nice and helped me see the brighter side of things, others that weren’t so nice. I received two very rude responses that were unprovoked, and it made me want to remind everyone that we should not attack others for something that they write. What I wrote wasn’t even near offensive, nor was I rude because I take pride on being a very nice person, even when I don’t know you.
So please, everyone, don’t be rude to someone because you are hiding behind a computer and they don’t know you. This world needs more happiness and nice people. You don’t know what another person is going through, so why be mean to them unless they are mean to you? Let’s keep this website a friendly, nice place for people to express themselves without being so harshly judged.
Post # 3
You’re so cute! Are you still upset about the comments in your “Tired of people obsessed over looks on MY wedding day”? Oh honey, don’t worry about things like that. The world is FILLED with different kinds of people/opinions. You can’t live if you worry about every single thing that happens. Overlook anything that pisses you off! 🙂
ETA: Ladies I’m not sure if that’s the thread she was talking about. It’s just my opinion, ok? Everyone is sensitive in their own way…what’s “mean” to someone can be nothing to someone else.
Post # 4
A post like this is going to further provoke people to say things to you that you may not like. If somone is truly being rude, report their post.
This is a forum. Sometimes you may get responses you don’t like. Differing opinions are one thing, and being rude or attacking somone is another.
Post # 5
@MeeshelleMyBelle: I had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago and it left me quite seriously upset, so I know how horrible it can be.
I hope you aren’t too badly shaken.
Post # 6
You should speak to a mod about the rude responses and let them decide if it violates the tos, starting another thread I think can lead to trouble/drama even if that isn’t your intention. I think the mods are called helper bees if you want to find them.
Post # 8
@MeeshelleMyBelle: I just read through your thread and I didn’t see any snarkiness or rudeness. I think that people were just being honest, and sometimes, when that IS harsh, it can be misconstrued. Some bees are a bit more eleoquent in expressing their disagreement than others.
In the thread I think you are referring to, basically everyone, in a nice way, said “suck it up”, whether it be by saying that you are justified and giving an anecdote about how they, too, had a time, but in the end, it didn’t matter, or if they literally told you that you shouldn’t complain.
I hope you continue to come around! When you do post something that can have two sides, be prepared that people will mention both, whether you agree or not.
Post # 9
Whenever you post on a forum, you have to expect that not everyone will agree with you. You can’t let it bother you! Don’t let a few responses ruin your experience on an otherwise great website.
Post # 10
@Anna22: If that’s the tread that she is upset about…I’m lost. People were not really being rude there..just mostly sharing their thoughts….I see maybe one kinda harsh respose.
Post # 11
I just went and looked at the post in question. If you think those responses were “very rude” you,may need to get a bit of a thicker internet skin. Everything on the internet should be taken with a grain of salt and should not be read into. Tone gets lost and many people want to get thoughts out there and help and do so quickly and bluntly. Just because someone is blunt or gives “tough love” that does not equal snark or rudeness.
In all honesty, if i was one of your guests and stumbled onto your post I might have found you a tad rude. Take a deep breath and a step back, this community is very supportive as well as very honest. Just because someone’s opinion (and/or their delivery of it) is different than you would like, that does not make them rude.
PS sorry for any errors, posting from my phone.
Post # 12
I will also say that WB for the most part is an extremely friendly andcivil place when it comes to wedding forums. Even when disagreeing, things dont get too out of hand usually.
if you want to know what mean is, go post the same thing at The Knot.
Post # 13
Firstly, on the internet, responses can come off in a way they are not intended to. I’ve seen lots of posts where people react to a response and the writer comes back and apologises because they didn’t mean to come off snarky.
Secondly, all it takes for people to argue is a difference of opinion and that happens a lot on here. It’s easier said than done but try not to take it personally 🙂 It’s happened to all of us! When people are being downright rude, just ignore them. Some people definitely get off on being argumentative though because it’s easy to hide behind a computer screen.
Thirdly…some of the best advice I’ve got on here is the advice I didn’t want/expect to hear so be open to everything people say to you.
I do think the majority of people here are good people with sound advice 🙂
Post # 14
@Anna22: Aw thanks!! It’s not upsetting me, I’m letting it slide, but I just want to remind people to be nice to one another, you know? Life is too short to be mean and rude!
@urchin: I completely agree with you. I know the difference between a difference of opinion and being flat out rude. I was in the military for 7 years-I’ve dealt with harsher circumstances. I just want to remind people not to be so rude when stating their opinion. There are nicer ways to say things.
@SpecialSundae: Aw you poor thing!! I am so sorry you went through that!!! I just look at it as that person is not happy, or something is going on in their life, and somehow they had to lash out on me instead of saying it in a nice way. I don’t let people I don’t know make or break my day because life is too short. I know, I’ve had about 10 people who were close to me die within the last 9 years, so it’s not worth it to be rude.
@TwoCityBride: Thank you for the advice!! I did what you said, and I asked to close the thread as well! If this post asking people to be nicer in their responses leads to rude people, then I feel sorry for those that are rude.
@leafgum: Very interesting!
@takemyhand: Thank you for the advice!! There were 2 pages on the thread, so if you check the 2nd page, you’ll see that there were a couple of uncalled-for responses. I don’t mind people telling me to suck it up. I want to see the brighter side of things so I don’t feel this way! But when someone is rude, I don’t take kindly to that.
@pecanpie: Aw thank you! I do know there are differences of opinions, and I don’t mind that! It’s just the way people say them that matters, you know?
@urchin: Check out *both* pages of the thread and I’m sure you’ll see what I’m talking about. If not, then maybe things like that don’t necessarily bother you, but they bother someone like me who takes pride in being a nice person all the time.
Post # 15
Word of advice, OP, these treads do nothing but paint a target on your back. If you have a problem with what someone said either take it up with them in the original thread or PM the user. There’s really no need to start a “*Wahhh* Someone was mean to me” thread.
FWIW, I read through your other thread and didn’t see anything overly rude or snarky. Just people being real with ya. If you can’t hack it, posting on an internet forum may not be the best place for you.
Post # 16
@ticatica: Aw thanks for your advice on all of that!! That definitely helps, and I liked what you said about people wanting to argue because they are hiding behind a computer screen. I just wish people were nicer in the world, that’s all. I don’t mind people expressing their opinion, but do it in a way that is kind, not rude, and that’s what I was writing in this post.